7 habits kick off day
The 7 Habits of
Highly Effective
Teens
By Shelia Sutton, M.A., NBCT
Habit 1: BE PROACTIVE! • The word “proactive” means “to take initiative and “to plan ahead.” • You can be PROACTIVE or REACTIVE.
• The word “reactive” means to be “hasty” and to “act in response” after the fact.
Habit 1: Be Proactive • “I Am the Force!” It’s ALL up to ME! Reactive Language
PROACTIVE LANGUAGE
“I’ll try.”
“I’ll do it!”
“That’s just the way I am.”
“I can do better than that!”
“There’s nothing I can do.”
“Let’s look at all of our options!”
“I have to.”
“I choose to!”
“I can’t.”
“There’s gotta be a way!”
“You ruined my day.”
“I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me!”
Proactive People… • Are not easily offended • Take responsibility for their choices • Think before they act • Bounce back when something bad happens • Always find a way to make it happen • Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t
Reactive people … • Are easily offended • Blame others • Get angry and say things they later regret • Whine and complain • Wait for things to happen to them • Change only when they have to
We Can Only Control One Thing… • “The fact is that we can’t control everything that happens to us” (54). • “We CAN control how we
Highly Effective
Teens
By Shelia Sutton, M.A., NBCT
Habit 1: BE PROACTIVE! • The word “proactive” means “to take initiative and “to plan ahead.” • You can be PROACTIVE or REACTIVE.
• The word “reactive” means to be “hasty” and to “act in response” after the fact.
Habit 1: Be Proactive • “I Am the Force!” It’s ALL up to ME! Reactive Language
PROACTIVE LANGUAGE
“I’ll try.”
“I’ll do it!”
“That’s just the way I am.”
“I can do better than that!”
“There’s nothing I can do.”
“Let’s look at all of our options!”
“I have to.”
“I choose to!”
“I can’t.”
“There’s gotta be a way!”
“You ruined my day.”
“I’m not going to let your bad mood rub off on me!”
Proactive People… • Are not easily offended • Take responsibility for their choices • Think before they act • Bounce back when something bad happens • Always find a way to make it happen • Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t
Reactive people … • Are easily offended • Blame others • Get angry and say things they later regret • Whine and complain • Wait for things to happen to them • Change only when they have to
We Can Only Control One Thing… • “The fact is that we can’t control everything that happens to us” (54). • “We CAN control how we