A Kid's Guide To Divorce Analysis

About a year or so ago, my parents sat my brother and I down looking really solemn. At first I thought that my cat had been killed by a coyote or something (I’m slightly paranoid about my cat). Then I realized that I hadn’t seen my dog yet and normally he comes to greet us when we get home from school. He had been having some problems recently with odd possible cancer lumps and limping. I thought that he had been put down or something. Neither one happened. Then I remembered that my parents were always fighting, and that my dad and I would constantly fight too. This was it. Dad was moving out. Dad started speaking first. He said that he was moving out. My brother burst into tears. I merely sat there. I expected this. I had been expecting this
There is really no easy way out when everything reminds you of the life you used to have with both parents. According to D’Arcy Lyness, who wrote the article, “A Kid’s Guide to Divorce”, kids need to “talk through the feelings with… family members, friends, teachers or counselors” (Lyness). Having someone to talk to and get your emotions out is a really good thing. There is no point in bottling it all up when there is at least one person out there who is genuinely concerned with your well- being. Bottling it up leads to aggression, an emotion I am all too familiar with. Confiding in a friend would give an outside opinion of the situation and possibly and escape when they are feeling upset. A counselor would give advice on how to work through the problem. Parents can provide (hopefully) insight on the problem and help to comfort the kids. Another nearby relative would maybe be a safe house to go to. A friend’s house would be the same way possibly. Also according to D’Arcy Lyness, “Keep in touch… talk about the future… figure out your strengths… live your life…” What this author is trying to say is that when someone’s parents get divorced, the teenager or kid in question should not put their own life aside. They should continue to communicate with the both parents. Talking about the future would make the teenager feel more confident that they are able to continue on. Being older means that they understand more. They also realize the issues that come with it. Problems would be more why the parents got divorced, but primarily money issues. They worry about the future and whether or not the parents will be able to pay all expenses for school and extracurricular activities. The parent will also lie to make the kid feel better. That is what my parents did to me. When the author says to figure out your strengths, they mean to figure out how you react to situations. Anger? Sadness? Stress? Personally, I feel all