Addison: The Christian Girl
Addison is walking down a hallway in her school. Addison is known as the Christian girl. Addison never messes up and she never fails. Everyone is always looking at her to see what Addison is going to do. Addison is like every other girl in her school. But one thing is different, Addison is pregnant.
Every girl that hears this story would say. “That would never happen to me. I know how to control myself. I know how to say stop. I know what the Bible says. My boyfriend would never push me that far.” This is one of the biggest lies that teenage girls tell themselves today. “That would never happen to me, I’m a good girl. Being a good girl has nothing to do with getting pregnant. The United States is ranked number one in the world with the highest …show more content…
teenage pregnancy rate as of 2015 (Novicio, 2015). What is this saying about our nation? Why are we as a society allowing this to happen? What can you as a parent do? How can you help the kids in your school?
Some of you might be parents of kids that attend public school or private schools. Do you know what the teachers are teaching them about sex education? If you don’t, why not? You as a parent have the responsibility to be involved in your children’s life.
Did you know that you have the right to talk to your kid’s teachers about what they are learning?
You can talk to your kid’s teachers about what they are learning about sex education. When your kids see you are taking time to invest in their lives, they are surprised they know you are watching them. Show them that you are not just there to help them with life but that you want to be a part of their life and share the journey with them. If you don’t talk to your kids about sex do you really want them to know from the worlds prospective and not your families’ prospective? If they hear an unfamiliar sex term, do you want them to ask you or someone else for the correct answer and …show more content…
explanation!
Another area is to find out what is your local church teaching or not teaching them about sex? Many of the teenagers that get pregnant are of a Christian background with strong biblical beliefs. Why is this? It is because they don’t understand what they are learning. They are told it is biblical wrong to be sexually active before marriage but they really don’t understand why God designed it this way. One of the hardest most uncomfortable conversations you will have with your kids is about sex that is why it is the most important. If they don’t hear it from you, they will hear it from someone else. You need to be telling them what you believe and why you believe it.
How can you help out in your church? You can talk to your youth pastor, or main pastor for example. What my church does every year is we have a sermon series on purity the month of February. After that, we have a purity lock-in. At the lock-in we split up into small groups and talk about sex, relationships and dating. Boys with the male leaders and girls with the female leaders. This makes it easier to talk about certain things because it can get uncomfortable with them there. My mom and I review what was covered to answer any questions that might have come up.
I have a friend, named Sally. She has grown up in church her whole life. Last year in 9th grade she met a guy and they started texting. He asked her to homecoming and she went. She would talk about kissing him for his birthday. She wanted to give the kiss to him and nothing we said would change her mind. In February, she had her first kiss, she was saying goodbye to him when he kissed her for the very first time. After that kiss, she started joking around with us about doing other things more sexual with him. She jokes around a lot so I never really knew if she was telling the truth or just putting on a show. One day she pulled me aside and looked me in the eyes and said, “I want to have sex with him.” It surprised me so much. She knows what the Bible says about waiting until marriage to have sex, but she still wanted to do it. She began asking kids at her school about the best place to have sex. All of a sudden everything was certain. I knew she had already made up her mind and she was not changing it.
The Bible says in James 4:17 “Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin.” (NASB) My friend knows this verse and still wanted to have sex with her boyfriend. Any person that know what is right and does not do it, is sinning. No parent wants their kids to be like that. Make sure they know that they can come to you for anything and ask questions they might have, make sure you have the answer.
You as a parent should feel the need to talk to your kids about sex and not just the basics. Many parents think that they don’t need to talk to their kids about sex? One of the top reasons that parents do not talk to their kids about sex is because they think they will become sexually active.(2016) Kids whose parents talk to them about sex actually have a better understanding about it and its consequences, feelings, and emotions that go with it. They avoid situations where they will be tempted to have sex. Sometimes it is nice to have someone care about them so much to tell them but it can be uncomfortable never the less but so is a teen parent. You are the best person to talk to your kids about sex because you know them and you have been through it yourself. They want to trust you and talk to you about it but you need to take the first step. My mom talked to me about sex, yes it was uncomfortable but made me feel really good inside to know that they mom was taking the time to tell me about something so important. I feel better about sex now than I did in the beginning and I know if I have any questions I can go ask my mom. I was in my teen girls club class and we were reviewing sexual purity. I was shocked when the teacher asked the class “where did you first hear about sex?” I was the only one who said, my mom. Everyone else said school.
My mom taught me what the Bible says about sex. In 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 it says “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God” (NIV) Something my Pastor said was “Sex inside God’s boundaries brings fulfillment. Sex outside God’s boundaries will eventually bring disappointment.” I agree with him, having sex out of marriage brings many disappointments: the disappointment that you will never be able to give yourself to your future spouse fully, that you have taken away that right that they have and given it to someone else.
I believe, one of the reasons that the teenage pregnancy rate is so high in school, is that the schools took out God.
When they took out God from our public schools they took out our moral compass and values that a lot of people need as a guide. A big example being that you must wait to have sex until marriage. Today having sex is the norm for most teenagers. We need teenagers to understand that they are to be in the world but not of it. What that means is this, they are to be living in the world but not being a part of worldly things; when we set our mind on worldly things we are taking our minds off of God. My pastor uses this example all the time,” You are like a rope, the world is pulling on you from one side and God is pulling on you from the other. Whichever way you lean towards is the way you are going to go. If you lean towards the world and away from God it will be harder to make it back to him.” A lot of Christians think they can live a worldly life and still follow Christ. They can’t; they will only feel pulled further and further away from God. They might be in the middle saying I don’t know which way to lean. What should I do? When in doubt, turn to God, He will never lead you down the wrong
path.
If I could speak to every girl, this is what I would tell her. God loves each and every one of you and he wants your heart. It doesn’t matter how many times you have messed up he will always forgive you if you ask. Teen pregnancy is a growing issue in this day and age. You can change that. No, you cannot change everyone but start one person at a time. Start telling others about the love of Christ. When you go to school or hear another story about a teenage girl becoming pregnant remember to pray for them and their families. No one is perfect but God loves each and every one of us the same because he created us and he created sex for us. Sex is not a bad thing, if you wait until you are married as God intends. Sex was created to be beautiful but the world has turned it into something that it is not.
Remember the story about my friend? Well in the end, she never actually had sex with her boyfriend as far as I know. The fact that she seriously considered it is the scary part. Why was a Christian girl even thinking about having sex with her boyfriend? She was letting herself get caught up in the world. She was turning away from everything that she learned because she never was told exactly what would happen if she got with the guy.
I pray that you will start to make a difference in your community. I pray that you would go talk to your kids and have them understand what sex is and what it means to you. God made sex to be a beautiful thing; not something to be taken lightly. Waiting is a sign of true love and patience. Anyone can say “I love you”, but not everyone can wait and prove it’s true.
Every girl that hears this story would say. “That would never happen to me. I know how to control myself. I know how to say stop. I know what the Bible says. My boyfriend would never push me that far.” This is one of the biggest lies that teenage girls tell themselves today. “That would never happen to me, I’m a good girl. Being a good girl has nothing to do with getting pregnant. The United States is ranked number one in the world with the highest …show more content…
teenage pregnancy rate as of 2015 (Novicio, 2015). What is this saying about our nation? Why are we as a society allowing this to happen? What can you as a parent do? How can you help the kids in your school?
Some of you might be parents of kids that attend public school or private schools. Do you know what the teachers are teaching them about sex education? If you don’t, why not? You as a parent have the responsibility to be involved in your children’s life.
Did you know that you have the right to talk to your kid’s teachers about what they are learning?
You can talk to your kid’s teachers about what they are learning about sex education. When your kids see you are taking time to invest in their lives, they are surprised they know you are watching them. Show them that you are not just there to help them with life but that you want to be a part of their life and share the journey with them. If you don’t talk to your kids about sex do you really want them to know from the worlds prospective and not your families’ prospective? If they hear an unfamiliar sex term, do you want them to ask you or someone else for the correct answer and …show more content…
explanation!
Another area is to find out what is your local church teaching or not teaching them about sex? Many of the teenagers that get pregnant are of a Christian background with strong biblical beliefs. Why is this? It is because they don’t understand what they are learning. They are told it is biblical wrong to be sexually active before marriage but they really don’t understand why God designed it this way. One of the hardest most uncomfortable conversations you will have with your kids is about sex that is why it is the most important. If they don’t hear it from you, they will hear it from someone else. You need to be telling them what you believe and why you believe it.
How can you help out in your church? You can talk to your youth pastor, or main pastor for example. What my church does every year is we have a sermon series on purity the month of February. After that, we have a purity lock-in. At the lock-in we split up into small groups and talk about sex, relationships and dating. Boys with the male leaders and girls with the female leaders. This makes it easier to talk about certain things because it can get uncomfortable with them there. My mom and I review what was covered to answer any questions that might have come up.
I have a friend, named Sally. She has grown up in church her whole life. Last year in 9th grade she met a guy and they started texting. He asked her to homecoming and she went. She would talk about kissing him for his birthday. She wanted to give the kiss to him and nothing we said would change her mind. In February, she had her first kiss, she was saying goodbye to him when he kissed her for the very first time. After that kiss, she started joking around with us about doing other things more sexual with him. She jokes around a lot so I never really knew if she was telling the truth or just putting on a show. One day she pulled me aside and looked me in the eyes and said, “I want to have sex with him.” It surprised me so much. She knows what the Bible says about waiting until marriage to have sex, but she still wanted to do it. She began asking kids at her school about the best place to have sex. All of a sudden everything was certain. I knew she had already made up her mind and she was not changing it.
The Bible says in James 4:17 “Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin.” (NASB) My friend knows this verse and still wanted to have sex with her boyfriend. Any person that know what is right and does not do it, is sinning. No parent wants their kids to be like that. Make sure they know that they can come to you for anything and ask questions they might have, make sure you have the answer.
You as a parent should feel the need to talk to your kids about sex and not just the basics. Many parents think that they don’t need to talk to their kids about sex? One of the top reasons that parents do not talk to their kids about sex is because they think they will become sexually active.(2016) Kids whose parents talk to them about sex actually have a better understanding about it and its consequences, feelings, and emotions that go with it. They avoid situations where they will be tempted to have sex. Sometimes it is nice to have someone care about them so much to tell them but it can be uncomfortable never the less but so is a teen parent. You are the best person to talk to your kids about sex because you know them and you have been through it yourself. They want to trust you and talk to you about it but you need to take the first step. My mom talked to me about sex, yes it was uncomfortable but made me feel really good inside to know that they mom was taking the time to tell me about something so important. I feel better about sex now than I did in the beginning and I know if I have any questions I can go ask my mom. I was in my teen girls club class and we were reviewing sexual purity. I was shocked when the teacher asked the class “where did you first hear about sex?” I was the only one who said, my mom. Everyone else said school.
My mom taught me what the Bible says about sex. In 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 it says “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God” (NIV) Something my Pastor said was “Sex inside God’s boundaries brings fulfillment. Sex outside God’s boundaries will eventually bring disappointment.” I agree with him, having sex out of marriage brings many disappointments: the disappointment that you will never be able to give yourself to your future spouse fully, that you have taken away that right that they have and given it to someone else.
I believe, one of the reasons that the teenage pregnancy rate is so high in school, is that the schools took out God.
When they took out God from our public schools they took out our moral compass and values that a lot of people need as a guide. A big example being that you must wait to have sex until marriage. Today having sex is the norm for most teenagers. We need teenagers to understand that they are to be in the world but not of it. What that means is this, they are to be living in the world but not being a part of worldly things; when we set our mind on worldly things we are taking our minds off of God. My pastor uses this example all the time,” You are like a rope, the world is pulling on you from one side and God is pulling on you from the other. Whichever way you lean towards is the way you are going to go. If you lean towards the world and away from God it will be harder to make it back to him.” A lot of Christians think they can live a worldly life and still follow Christ. They can’t; they will only feel pulled further and further away from God. They might be in the middle saying I don’t know which way to lean. What should I do? When in doubt, turn to God, He will never lead you down the wrong
path.
If I could speak to every girl, this is what I would tell her. God loves each and every one of you and he wants your heart. It doesn’t matter how many times you have messed up he will always forgive you if you ask. Teen pregnancy is a growing issue in this day and age. You can change that. No, you cannot change everyone but start one person at a time. Start telling others about the love of Christ. When you go to school or hear another story about a teenage girl becoming pregnant remember to pray for them and their families. No one is perfect but God loves each and every one of us the same because he created us and he created sex for us. Sex is not a bad thing, if you wait until you are married as God intends. Sex was created to be beautiful but the world has turned it into something that it is not.
Remember the story about my friend? Well in the end, she never actually had sex with her boyfriend as far as I know. The fact that she seriously considered it is the scary part. Why was a Christian girl even thinking about having sex with her boyfriend? She was letting herself get caught up in the world. She was turning away from everything that she learned because she never was told exactly what would happen if she got with the guy.
I pray that you will start to make a difference in your community. I pray that you would go talk to your kids and have them understand what sex is and what it means to you. God made sex to be a beautiful thing; not something to be taken lightly. Waiting is a sign of true love and patience. Anyone can say “I love you”, but not everyone can wait and prove it’s true.