Adultry

Adultery

Lack of compromise, communication, commitment, and faith can drive a happy marriage into anger, distrust, frustration and loneliness, ending up in an extra marital affair, better known as adultery. At the beginning of a marriage everything seems fine and dandy, but as years pass by, routine blinds the married couple out of love and they fail to compromise about the daily activities. The couple communicates less and eventually stops communicating at all to avoid shouts and fights. In the process, they forget marriage is based on commitment, so they lose faith and hope about trying to make it work. Instead, they begin feeling neglected and rejected so the need for attention arises. In their need of affection, an outside person smiles at them or gives them a bit of attention and this leads to the beginning of adultery, which is the voluntary relationship between a married person and another person other than the lawful spouse.

Compromise is very essential on the little day to day routine of life. Some issues may be worth disagreements, but some are not. Leveling and understanding an agreement is a good way to put it. Whenever there are disagreements about a topic or a discussion, it can cause problems and over thinking, and it can bring the percentage of losing the spouse to a higher rate. One obvious signal to losing a loved one is when one of them just walks away ignoring what you have to say, and not wanting to listen and agree with what you have to inform them about. This can cause many problems if one gets upset or hurt, such as anger and/or melancholy, and can lead to arguments and cause one of the spouses to decide what they should do with the rest of their lives. A husband and wife do not always agree on things. And when they disagree, they cannot seem to come to a consensus, they can’t seem to compromise. They cannot agree to disagree. They begin to feel sudden feelings such as anger and resentment.

Communication is most essential in determining the success of a relationship. Communication has to be positive and /or in good shape in order for it to be long lasting. Lack of communication in a relationship could contribute to some negative effects to those involved. It can cause the spouse to doubt and wonder which causes arguments and negative assumptions. A spouse can get frustrated and upset when there is little or no communication and in turn it causes them to do things they are not supposed to. Instead of a spouse asking for what they want in concrete terms, they complain every time. Sometimes a spouse tries to do well as a wife and mother and her husband never gives her any positive feedback. At times, a spouse will use the silent treatment, which will definitely lead to distance between husband and wife. To say the least, when there is no communication, it gives a higher percent rate to get uninterested and cheat. Lack of presence and communication can give the spouse too much freedom and alone time which isn’t healthy for the relationship. When a spouse doesn’t receive respect and admiration, they may feel their spouse does not show any support or interest in them. They began feeling suspicious of adultery. Therefore, communication against one another is a very healthy thing in a relationship because it shows that the spouse is comfortable and not hiding anything personal that can lead to divorce or such.

Commitment means you promise to stay and work through it in good times and in bad times, not just today but forever. The married couple has promised each other loyalty and true love. The betrayal of these promises can painfully, emotionally hurt one of the spouses feeling like a stab deep in the gut, heart and mind. The spouse is committing their life to the person they love, their spouse. Which means the spouse is saying they will not cheat? When there is little commitment, it can cause guilt, anger, displaced anger and distrust in a marriage. If there is no commitment, it is not an intimate, emotionally satisfying and meaningful relationship. Without this glue to hold the marriage together, it may cause a spouse to look outside the marriage into adultery.

Faith means staying together for better or worse, for richer or poorer, through sickness and in health “till death do us part” which can sound romantic and loving but at the same time, it’s through belief and obedience. You are making a faithful commitment to God, yourself, and your spouse. When a spouse commits adultery, he or she has broken their marriage vows. This person does not have any honor or integrity. When certain problems arrive in a married couple, some people lose their faith in a higher power. They lie and cheat on their spouse, they covet another married person and all this chaos leads to adultery which eventually breaks up a marriage. Then comes divorce thru civil law and it marries and divorces any couple at any time which is presently very common. Many divorces are occurring due to adultery. In this current time, the divorce rate is rising. Due to little or no faith, men and women are not respecting marriages as much.

Overall, adultery is caused by lack of communication, compromise, commitment, and faith. After adultery occurs in a married couple, they have a choice to break up and divorce or forgive and stay together. If a couple chooses to stay together, they may go for marriage counseling and work on having consistent open communication, being able and willing to compromise, staying fully committed, and having divine faith for a successful and happy marriage. If the couple chooses to divorce, they will need to work at many areas as a single person such as the visitation rights, custody issues, child support, a missing parent for certain events of the children’s life, splitting possessions, and an emotional scar for years to come. But if they are having a choice, the spouse may still be presently married. Marriage is not an agreement or temporary thing, it is something that takes work and determination, a commitment the couple makes and lives through for the rest of their lives. Is adultery worth it?

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