The ones who don’t work for what they earn, turn out to be the people who ask for things rather than just earn it themselves. By not giving these participation trophies to children, you teach them that they need to earn it. If they just show up, but don’t do anything of importance, they shouldn’t get a trophy. This will show discipline and success. Betty Berdan once said, “Trophies should be given out for first, second and third; participation should be recognized, but celebrated with words and a pat on the back rather than a trophy.” This is a very good way to put it. Winners should be rewarded while the rest should learn an important lesson and shoot for the stars next time. They think that this trophy is really important, until they grow up and realize that it means nothing.
Lastly, these trophies can put people down. When children that understand the whole participation concept receive these trophies, they think they are among many others who just showed up. They will eventually think they aren’t good enough. Instead of the trophies, why not just give them a very important speech that will help them become greater at a specific event? I believe that coaches and adults of higher authority can make kids successful by teaching them, rather than awarding