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Analysis Of Marriage: A Joyful Union Of Opposites
DIFFERENT BY DESIGN

Marriage: A Joyful Union of Opposites

O.M EFUEYE

CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
CHAPTER 1: HE WHICH MADE THEM AT THE BEGINNING........
CHAPTER 2: ROLES DETERMINE RELATIONSHIPS
CHAPTER 3: DECISIONS, DECISIONS!
CHAPTER 4: COMMUNICATION IS KEY
CHAPTER 5: LEARNING TO FIGHT PROPERLY
CHAPTER 6: PARENTS: IN-LAWS & OUTLAWS
CHAPTER 7: I CAN’T LIVE WITHOUT YOU
CHAPTER 8: DIFFERENT BY DESIGN
CHAPTER 9: SEX IS GOOD, SEX IS GODLY
CHAPTER 10: FATAL ATTRACTIONS AND DISASTROUS DISTRACTIONS
CHAPTER 11: RAISING GODLY CHILDREN
CHAPTER 12: TILL DEATH US DO PART!

INTRODUCTION

“I curse the day I met you”. Those words were spat out with venom and frustration. They hit their intended target - my heart. The full
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To cohabit is defined by Dictionary.com as “to live together, especially as husband and wife, without being married.” Cohabitation in Great Britain, as prevalent as it is, does not qualify to be the functional equivalent of, or indeed a lasting alternative to marriage. Rather, it more often functions as a prelude to marriage or a trial marriage. CIVITAS the institution for the Study of Civil Society, an independent social policy think tank, has discovered in its research that the average length of a cohabiting union is two years before either converting to marriage or dissolving. There are many negative effects to cohabitation on cohabiting parents and their children, when compared to married couples and their offspring. Married couples and their children enjoy on the whole more qualitative economic circumstances, superior emotional well-being and better physical and mental health. To exemplify typical attitudes in cohabitation, a study on Sexual Behaviour in Britain (Welling K, Field J, Johnson A.M, Wandsworth J, Sexual Behaviour in Britain London: Penguin 1994 pg 363) discovered that cohabiting men are less likely than married men to say they think that sexual fidelity within a partnership is important. To this end, cohabiting men actually engage in slightly higher rates of unsafe sex (having multiple partners and failing to use a condom) than single men, and …show more content…
Man is a singular entity comprising three different distinct parts - spirit, soul and body. So the triune nature of man reflects the triune nature of God. The second indication is the fact that man was created male and female. God has both male and female characteristics. While He is primarily referred to as Father, it is clear that He also has maternal instincts and qualities as evidenced by His name El-Shaddai which literally translated means the multi-breasted one! Jesus also talks about wanting to gather Jerusalem’s children together as a ‘mother’ hen gathers her chicks under her wings. (Matthew 23:37; Luke

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