Analyzing Amy's 'Pressure To Fit In'
I empathize the most with Amy since she feels the pressure to fit in and the anxiety of something going wrong. After Amy learns that Robert and his family are coming over for Christmas Eve dinner, Amy feels pressured since she wants the dinner party to be perfect by having roasted turkey, sweet potatoes, and none of her relatives or parents embarrassing her, so Robert’s, family can enjoy it. Amy was nervous because she didn’t know how Robert would react to their Chinese tradition and if it wasn’t perfect then she thought they would be disappointed or disgust especially Robert her crush. Amy learns how difficult it is to fit in and to be accepted for her culture by Robert's family. For instance, her shame in embracing her family customs. However, she learns to have self-confidence and be accepted for who she is. This represents how you should not be pressured because you want to be someone or because you are embarrassed of your heritage.
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Likewise, my heritage relates to her because when friends come over to my house I want to fit in with them since they have different heritages. Also, offer them something they would normally eat or drink like chips, cookies, or soda. In addition, when the guests came over for dinner, Amy thinks Robert’s family would be disappointed when they realized that her family lacked proper American manners. During the dinner, when everyone was eating, Amy did not want to be with her relatives at dinner because “my relatives licked the ends of their chopsticks and reached across the table, dipping them into the dozen or so plates of food. Robert and his family waited patiently for platters to be passed to them” (Tan 15).
Thus, Robert’s family does not know much about Chinese traditions, Amy is not happy when her father decides to burp loudly startling the guests and starting to make them question her parents behaviour since she was Chinese and he was American, which both had different traditions.
She was embarrassed since they both had different heritage. She learns that she should not worry too much because at the end of the day you learn something new, like you are like American girls but inside you always be Chinese. Also, I learned that I shouldn’t be having anxiety when I having friends coming over, I shouldn’t be worried because everyone has anxiety of something bad happening. I shouldn’t be worried about the way my parents act because my background is Sri Lanka and I shouldn’t worry about how my house, clothing looks, and the food we eat. Now I understand that I should be embarrassed and understand about my heritage. In conclusion, I can relate with Amy because of her struggle to fit in and she gets worried about something going
wrong.
Likewise, my heritage relates to her because when friends come over to my house I want to fit in with them since they have different heritages. Also, offer them something they would normally eat or drink like chips, cookies, or soda. In addition, when the guests came over for dinner, Amy thinks Robert’s family would be disappointed when they realized that her family lacked proper American manners. During the dinner, when everyone was eating, Amy did not want to be with her relatives at dinner because “my relatives licked the ends of their chopsticks and reached across the table, dipping them into the dozen or so plates of food. Robert and his family waited patiently for platters to be passed to them” (Tan 15).
Thus, Robert’s family does not know much about Chinese traditions, Amy is not happy when her father decides to burp loudly startling the guests and starting to make them question her parents behaviour since she was Chinese and he was American, which both had different traditions.
She was embarrassed since they both had different heritage. She learns that she should not worry too much because at the end of the day you learn something new, like you are like American girls but inside you always be Chinese. Also, I learned that I shouldn’t be having anxiety when I having friends coming over, I shouldn’t be worried because everyone has anxiety of something bad happening. I shouldn’t be worried about the way my parents act because my background is Sri Lanka and I shouldn’t worry about how my house, clothing looks, and the food we eat. Now I understand that I should be embarrassed and understand about my heritage. In conclusion, I can relate with Amy because of her struggle to fit in and she gets worried about something going
wrong.