In the novel ‘Far From the Madding Crowd’ by Thomas Hardy, Bathsheba Everdene and Sergeant Frank Troy’s courtship is first presented to us as a well fitted relationship, as both Bathsheba and Troy are well educated people. However, later on Bathsheba, because of this relationship with Troy, goes down a road to self-discovery as she learns her faults and changes in the process.
Before Bathsheba's relationship with Troy, she is a very outward and extremely independent woman. She does not seem to want a man to rule her life, and she is conceited and vain when it comes to the subject of marriage, this is shown when Gabriel hides in on the wagon to get to Weatherbury and he overhears the townsfolk chattering: “She’s a very vain feymell — so ’tis said here and there”. Bathsheba wants to marry for love, not convenience. This is shown in the opening chapters of the book, with her relationship with Gabriel Oak “Because I don’t love you”. When Bathsheba and Troy first meet, it is in the darkness of a plantation, Bathsheba's dress got entangled upon Troy's spur. Troy had an image about him that could appeal to Bathsheba, “The man to whom she was hooked was brilliant in brass and scarlet...His sudden appearance was to darkness the sound of a trumpet is to silence”. This image shows Troy as high in status and very desirable and charming. However Bathsheba does not sway towards Troy on their first meeting.
Bathsheba shortly starts to quite like Troy, he makes her feel special and precious; especially when she fixes the veil and the broadbrimmed hat on Troy while he aids Bathsheba with hiving the bees, “’Miss Everdene, let me assist you. You should not attempt such a feat alone!’”. This makes her feel exceptional and valuable because he needed help to but the garments for hiving the bees on, and also that she is too delicate and exquisite to be in the danger of getting stung by bees. She feels that he is