Becoming a Man

To be a man in 2013 means many different things. It means a lot of good things and a lot of bad things. Men have very many responsibilities that no other creature on this earth have. They also have a lot of freedom. They can use this freedom in a positive way or a negative way. People in 2013 look up to men and they are role models for kids, mothers, and everything else. This is tough because men have the option to be a good, loving father figure or a mean, reckless person. The good man is a role model, leader, and treats his family, friends, and others with respect. The bad man had no sense of respect towards women, friends, and family. He doesn’t respect mother nature and is not a role model for other kids. These are many of the tough decisions a man has to make in the year of 2013.

As for me, I am looking forward to many different things on the path to becoming a man. I am looking forward to settling down, getting a job, and finding my soulmate. As a teenager, life is very hectic and crazy on a daily basis. We have many events and activities and rarely have the time to relax. I am looking forward to becoming a man because I feel I will have more time to do this. The next thing I am looking forward to is getting a job. This may not sound very fun, but I am looking forward to working and finding something that I will do everyday and have fun doing it. The final thing I’m excited for is finding my soulmate. This includes finding my perfect wife, spending every moment together, and eventually becoming a wonderful father. I want to be a leader and a role model for my kids. I want them to want to be like me when they grow up. I want to have immense amounts of respect for my friends, family, and others. And I also want them to feel the same way towards me. This would be my ideal life. I look up to my mom because this description above fits her perfectly. She is a single mom who has raised me from the bottom and respected all friends and family from the beginning.

As I grow older, I feel like I will be challenged by many things. The main thing is peer pressure from friends. This involves drinking, drugs, and engaging in sexual activity. I know that to be a pure man I cannot partake in drinking and doing drugs. Also, not partake in sexual activity until I find my soulmate and we are married. These three activities will be hard not to do but I know that if I trust in God, he will direct my paths and help me to make the right decision. I know that even if I face peer pressure, I must stay strong and not give in to doing those bad and inappropriate things.

On my way to manhood, I will have massive amounts of responsibilities. They vary from little things like taking the trash out and doing the dishes to bigger things like being the man of the house. These are only few of many I will have because of my single mom. This means I have to take on the role of man of the house and comfort my mom when things are going bad and she needs help. An example of this has been the last year or so. My mom’s mother has gotten Alzheimer's disease and has lost all of her memory, and the ability to walk and make sense with her words. My mom has cried a lot and I’ve tried to be the shoulder she can cry on as best as I can. Other responsibilities of being a man include putting food on the table, making money, and supporting the family in all ways.

I feel like developed a lot in the last year as a person in a very good way. A year ago, I was a very immature kid who cared more about girls and video games, then school and sports. I have made a full turn around on this and have taken hockey and grades incredibly seriously this past year because I know it it going to be tough to get into a good college. Sexually, I feel like I have a new respect for women and do not just treat them like objects, but actual human beings. I also have come to realize that it is wrong to do any sexual activity with a girl until after marriage because that is what God wants for us. Physically, I have dropped quite a few pounds of fat and worked out very hard to improve my athletic ability and stamina.This helped me to make the Varsity hockey team at Sta and contribute to the best of my abilities. Spiritually, I have also made a huge turnaround from last year. Last year, I would rarely go to church and think of it as a giant waste of time. Now, I pray every night and I go to church every sunday. I sometimes go by myself even if my mom cannot go for some reason. I have really began to trust in God and have faith in him because he knows what is best for me. Emotionally, I have come a long way as well. I have put my mind and effort in to the right things compared to last year when it was the wrong things.