Blinded by Love
Michael Loncaric
10/21/12
Prof. Davis
English 1A, M-W Blinded by Love
Though my girlfriend and I have been dating for over three years and the excitement of a puppy love relationship is no longer there, I know our love is a strong true love. It is human nature to strive to find a significant other, but is it natural to put yourself through torment because you think you are in love? It was brought to my attention through movies that the end of the flick it is a happy ever after ending. In reality this isn’t how it really is, I know because I have experienced a long term relationship. It is very apparent in the reading of The End of the Affair by David Sedaris, it shows how a long term relationship is not cracked up as to be thought. Movies and media set “The theme, which is universal and encourages the viewer to make an unhealthy comparison, ultimately. Raising the question of why can’t our lives be like that? It’s a box left unopened”(335). As a romantic you set up a unrealistic expectations in the relationship, this will come to an abrupt end and will have to set realistic goals. This is not so easy because, in order to do this, you have to first adjust your own expectations of both the partnership and your partner. It means you have to stand back objectively and make changes in yourself to actually change what you expected that relationship to be. Next you have to rebuild the spark that united you in the first place. When you recognize that you are just disillusioned, that you don't really dislike your partner. You will also recognize that you need to rekindle the fire of attraction before it is all burned out between you. It is hard rebuilding an acceptable relationship is not something you can do on your own, especially hard when the partner has ceased to be attractive or appealing in your eyes, or has rejected you emotionally and that valuable chemistry is missing. The only
10/21/12
Prof. Davis
English 1A, M-W Blinded by Love
Though my girlfriend and I have been dating for over three years and the excitement of a puppy love relationship is no longer there, I know our love is a strong true love. It is human nature to strive to find a significant other, but is it natural to put yourself through torment because you think you are in love? It was brought to my attention through movies that the end of the flick it is a happy ever after ending. In reality this isn’t how it really is, I know because I have experienced a long term relationship. It is very apparent in the reading of The End of the Affair by David Sedaris, it shows how a long term relationship is not cracked up as to be thought. Movies and media set “The theme, which is universal and encourages the viewer to make an unhealthy comparison, ultimately. Raising the question of why can’t our lives be like that? It’s a box left unopened”(335). As a romantic you set up a unrealistic expectations in the relationship, this will come to an abrupt end and will have to set realistic goals. This is not so easy because, in order to do this, you have to first adjust your own expectations of both the partnership and your partner. It means you have to stand back objectively and make changes in yourself to actually change what you expected that relationship to be. Next you have to rebuild the spark that united you in the first place. When you recognize that you are just disillusioned, that you don't really dislike your partner. You will also recognize that you need to rekindle the fire of attraction before it is all burned out between you. It is hard rebuilding an acceptable relationship is not something you can do on your own, especially hard when the partner has ceased to be attractive or appealing in your eyes, or has rejected you emotionally and that valuable chemistry is missing. The only