Buddhism Kisogotami

The Buddha did not just say to kisagotami that death cannot be escaped because she was distraught and was only interested in finding a way of bringing her son back to life. If the Buddha had told kisogatami directly it would only have worsened her loss. The Buddha was explaining the truth in a simple way so that she could understand it herself. He was portraying that no one can escape death and unhappiness. If people expect only happiness in life, they will be disappointed. Neither those wise nor those foolish are immune to death. However great a father roars, he can never waken a dead daughter. And in Religion however much a mother begs the gods, a dead son will never cry again. The Buddha teaches the woman - in the only way she can understand - that pain and loss are part of life, and it's okay to go on living." The Buddha asks for a mustard seed instead because he understands what she must be going through. He shows the woman about suffering through the mustard seeds she obviously must have thought it was easy as there would have been a lot of mustard seeds in every house this may also be a reason why the Buddha chose the mustard seeds.
This story tells us that Buddhist attitude to suffering is that to live is to suffer as we know that death could be around the corner. We just know that death is their but not knowing when it will come is the real suffering. During our lifetime, we have to go through physical suffering such as pain, sickness, injury, tiredness, old age, and eventually death; and we have to endure psychological suffering like sadness, fear, frustration, disappointment, and depression. Although there are different degrees of suffering and there are also positive experiences in life that we perceive as the opposite of suffering, such as ease, comfort and happiness. Overall this means we are never able to keep permanently what we like and ourselves and our loved ones will pass away one day, too. The Buddhists believe that suffering is caused by desire, passion, pursuit of wealth and prestige, striving for fame or popularity. In other words craving.
CRAVING
is the deep-seated desire that all living beings have for the pleasures of the senses, and for life itself. For instance, people always seek to enjoy good food, entertainment and pleasant company. Yet none of these can give them complete and lasting satisfaction. After the fine meal has been eaten, the beautiful music heard and the pleasant company shared, one is still not content. One would like to enjoy these pleasures again and again, and for as long as possible.
You could think of our craving as a thirst for pleasure. The more you drink, the thirstier you become. We thirst to be rid of pain. We thirst to become something or someone else. It’s like drinking salt water — our thirst is never quenched.
People who desire to own many things also can never be fully satisfied too. Like children in a toyshop, they crave all the attractive things they see around them. But like children, they soon become dissatisfied with what they already have and desire more. Sometimes, they can hardly eat or sleep until they get what they want. Yet when they succeed in getting what they want, they may still find their happiness short-lived. Many will be too worried for the safety and condition of their new possessions to enjoy it. Then when the object they possess eventually breaks into pieces and has to be thrown away, they will suffer its loss even more.
When we have obtained something we desire, we may want more and more of it, and so greed arises. Because of desire and greed, people will lie, cheat and steal to get what they want. Uncontrolled desires can also lead to addiction, for example, to smoking, drinking and overeating, all of which lead to suffering and cause mental and physical harm.
If another person prevents one from getting what is desired, one may feel anger towards that person. Desire, when obstructed, can lead to ill will and anger. This in turn can lead to harsh words, violent quarrels and even fights or killings. All of this is suffering.