Self-actualization is accomplished when a person fulfils their potential and becomes fully-functioning, achieving the highest level of ‘human-beingness’
The state of congruence is where someone’s ideal-self is almost the same or is in uniform with their actual experiences. The opposite of being congruent is incongruence where a difference is found between one’s ideal-self and their experiences. Because everyone sees themselves as well-suited with their self-image, to attain a defensive characteristic or emotion represents an automatic feeling such as being in denial to feel good oneself and avoid undesirable feelings. Carl Rogers also stressed on how people from the surrounding too, plays an important role in someone’s life. He believes that everyone needs to feel positiveness by others because human beings are endowed with natural desires to be valued, loved, respected and treated with affection.
He separated this explanation into two ideas, unconditional positive regard and conditionally positive regard.
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