Carol Gilligan's Analysis

According to the supplemental material, Carol Gilligan identified that males see themselves as separate from others whereas females see themselves in terms of their relationship with others. Therefore, Jon always placed himself outside of his peers and never within. Jon felt that his peers classified him as not being ‘normal’. Jon defined the term being ‘normal’ as an individual that “get drunk, go on dates, not do any homework, hang out, and just love living life without a care in the world” (Garrod, 2012, p. 25). He started his reputation as not being ‘normal’ in elementary school. He was labeled as the ‘smart one’ in his family and set a goal of becoming successful to make the adults proud, such as his parents, grandparents, teachers, etc.
The questions began during junior year of high school. Jon asked, “Why did I care so much what everyone thought of me? Why was this reputation so important to me? Why did I cling to it?” (Garrod, 2012, p. 25). He then answered with a statement “Because it was all I had to cling to. It embodied all my success and the praise of adults.” (Garrod, 2012, p. 25). Jon was never sure what he quite wanted and to develop an identity one needs to decide on what they desire. He then began to question his faith, “ Had church, too, become a part of my so-called good-person image?” (Garrod, 2012, p. 26). The winter of his junior year was when Jon began develop an interest in his faith and made it a part of his identity. During college, Jon decide to become a clergyman but he want to no only be apart of the Christian community but also help the gay community and people with other culture. He than started to question, “ How could I offer something meaningful that would touch the souls of people I knew little about?” (Garrod, 2012, p. 30). Jon learned that everyone is not like him and that he has a lot to learn about people if he wants to help and comfort everyone. When his faith in Christianity grew, he came to his senses that everything sexual was wrong. Therefore, when his coworkers from camp kept mentioning how he is still a virgin, Jon started to question his sexuality. For example, “If you don’t get laid soon, I’ll know you’re a fag. Was I?” (Garrod, 2012, p. 30). He began to think that the longer he remained a virgin the more suspicion raised as being a closet gay. He realized that his homosexual feelings were for heterosexual guys but he was not exactly sure if he was gay. He also was not sure if he wanted a family for the future or to remain single. Jon was wondering if he could be true to himself or be a true Christian. Putting