Causes and Effects of Divorce

Cause and effect of Divorce
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Divorce is one of the most serious social problems in the modern world. It has become very common recently, and it affects all levels of society. The divorce rate in the United States is the highest in the world. Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. Sixty-seven percent of all second marriages end in divorce. As high as these figures are, what is also true is that the divorce rate appears to be dropping. In the past divorce was quite rare. The majority of marriages break up in the first few years. The consequences of divorce can change almost all about a person's life including who the person stays with, the way they live, their happiness, time spent with children and a lot more. Some effects of divorce can be good too. Like if you’re ending an abusive relationship. Other effects of divorce can be damaging to a person's entire life. But the biggest thing to consider is how divorce affects children. Every year, over 1 million American children suffer the divorce of their parents. Half of these children experience divorce before they become eighteen. The effects of divorce on children are depression or even nervous breakdown. Children are usually sensitive and are more susceptible to be more emotional. Children also become short tempered, destructive and isolated. Some of the causes are rapid change in society, pressure to marry, families in the modern world don't stay together as often, children live away from home, many young people rush into marriage, sexual problems, alcohol and substance abuse, money, immaturity and jealous attitude, violence, in-laws, lack of communication. Effects of divorce are usually hard on everybody involved. “For women: Women initiate divorce twice as often as men. After divorce, women experience less stress and better adjustment than do men. The reasons for this are that women are more likely to notice marital problems and to feel relief when such problems end. Women are more likely to experience an increase in self-esteem when they divorce and add new roles to their lives. For men: Men are usually confronted with greater emotional adjustment problems than women. The reasons for this are related to the loss of intimacy, the loss of social connection, reduced finances, and the common interruption of the parental role. Men are initially more negative about divorce than women and devote more energy in attempting to salvage the marriage. Men remarry more quickly than women. For children: studies showed boys had greater social and academic adjustment problems than girls. Newer Studies indicate that when children have a hard time, boys and girls suffer equally; they just differ in how they suffer. Boys have a more outside effect than girls; they act out their anger, frustration and hurt. They may fight more with peers and parents. Girls seem to keep everything inside. They may become depressed, develop headaches or stomach aches, and have changes in their eating and sleeping patterns.” 1 For children, divorce is stressful, confusing and hurtful. Kids of all ages are usually confused or angry at the thought of their parents splitting up. Another problem for the kids is changing houses during the week. It makes things harder for them.
Matthew 19:9 says,”And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” God says it is wrong for a man to divorce his wife for any reason, except sexual immorality. If God says not to divorce, and you call yourself a Christian, then why would you do it? Just think about what it does to everyone, and how it affects them, before you do.

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