The Causes of Divorce

From the past to present, people all over the world have determined to live together, which is called "get marriage". However, some couples are unable to maintain their relationship; therefore they choose divorce. Nowadays, divorce rates trend to increase continually; it is obvious that divorces can be taken place easier than the past. There are main causes of divorce, which are highlighted below.

The first significant cause of recent rise in the rates of divorce is that women completely change in roles. In the past, men had to bear the whole income of the family and afforded all the expenses, whereas woman only did housework and took care of babies. Hence, women had no money with led them to depend on husbands' money. Because of these situations, it is difficult for most women to separate from their husbands. In today modern world, these situations entirely changed. The equality between men and women in roles are very clear at the moment, thus women can work outside to earn money, while men share the household tasks such as cooking, cleaning, washing as well as caring for children. It can be clearly seen that women are independent from money as they can earn money by them to support their living cost. Accordingly, the divorce rates recently rise.

Lack of communication contributes to the issue. When two people lack communication, they are unable to solve problems that may occur in the marriage. They used to hide their disaffection into heart .Many married couples think that the minor problems that occur in their marriage, are insignificant, and are not worth talking about; however, they fail to realize that even the smallest things can cause conflict between the two when they are not able to solve them through communication. As a consequence, little problems expand to huge problems, which they can no longer stand for.

Many couples lack communication when it comes to making decisions about shared finances. This can cause financial issues to arise, and arguments to escalade in the marriage. They also lack communication when it comes to making decisions for their children. When one spouse does not agree with a decision made by the other spouse, then an argument can occur, and result by one or both parties sharing a feeling of resentment against the other. Thus, they have no choice but have to divorce.

Another common cause of divorce is money. Many people say, "Money is the root of all evil," as in a marriage it can be the root of all problems. When one spouse makes all of the financial decisions, and the other spouse does not agree with the decisions that he or she is making, then conflicts can occur between the two of them. Financial obligations that accompany the birth of a child can also cause conflict between the two, when they are not financially prepared for the increase in financial responsibility, which a couple gains when having children. This financial responsibility can affect the marriage drastically, when what seemed to be enough for the two, is not enough to provide for a family. For many married couples, an over-spending of funds by one or both partners can occur. This situation can put the couple in debt, and the debt can become a burden hovering over the marriage. No matter how much love that two people have for one another, it takes money to live a normal life. Lack of money can cause conflict in a marriage, sometimes escalating in intense arguments, and resulting in divorce.

Children are also among one of the leading causes of divorce. Many couples would believe that having children comes with the territory of being married, however, for some having children not agreed upon; can cause a light to burn out in their marriage. Children factor in to the financial stress of a marriage, as well as the lack of communication in a marriage.

Children require a lot of support from both parents, and when only one parent is working, the amount of support coming in, is sometimes not enough. This situation causes many married couples to argue over financial issues. They also argue over the decisions made for their children, when one of the partners does not agree with the other in certain situations. This causes them to resent each other, and puts the marriage in jeopardy. Children also require a lot of nurture, and though needed by both parents, normally only one has time to give them the full attention that they need. This often causes spouses to become jealous, because they feel that they are no longer getting the attention that they were once use too. This can often lead to adultery among one or both partners, as the feel they are no longer important to their spouse. Many couples experience this conflict in a marriage, and as a result, they turn to divorce as a way out of an unhappy situationAnother main reason of increasing divorce rate is young marriage. People become easily getting married these years. Some of them getting married because of pregnancy and some of them want to build up a family earlier. As a result, they get marry without careful consideration. They do not notice that there have differences in the habit, value or attitude between them. Even they do, they used to think that they can change their partner once a day or, they are willing to accommodate. However, after a few years of marriage, they fail to do so and this gives them great disappointment. This case occurs in much family. But not every family can tackle the problem, especially when the couple does not have a strong base of love. Therefore, this led to divorce finally.

Many couples often go through their marriage ignoring the fact that problems can and will arise. They tend to take their marriage for granted. Even so, it is certain that no one ever expects the worst to come out the marriage. Many fail to realize that lack of communication, money, and children, is among the most common causes of divorce.