Christ-Like vs. Secular
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Jeremy Brister
Dr. Julie Driessen
EN-101-A
February 22, 2013
The Battle of Marriages (Secular v. Christ like) We’ve all heard the sad statistic on marriages today in America: 50 percent ends in divorce. Having God at the center of one’s marriage will help one’s marriage; personally, I hold this to be true. While half of marriages end up in divorce, only a small number of 15 percent of Christian or Christ like marriages ends in divorce. There are many aspects of marriage. Some aspects of marriage would include, but not limited to: communication, famicial duties, and spiritual life. By examining the three categories, one can understand the difference between a secular and a Christ like marriage and which one strives more. God first and family second is the best and most effective way to take part in a marriage with one’s spouse.
Most marriage counselors would say that communication is the most important aspect of a marriage. Problem solving, the love languages, and commitment are three areas to consider or to examine when studying marital communication. In a secular marriage, some spouses would respond to a problem with the blunt, “deal with it.” From a communication standpoint, it does not sound like the spouse wants to be a part of fixing the problem. Where in a Christ like marriage, one would kindly say, “put your big boy soldier skirt on and deal with it.” The quote given was from a dear friend of mine and I love her to death. She told me to basically man up but in a soft tone. “A soft answer turns away wrath but harsh words stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1) She accomplished the goal of getting her message across with the “deal with it” part and she
Brister 2 added humor. I laughed when I saw this and immediately it made me feel better. Where there is humor, laughter follows right after it. Where there is laughter there is also happiness, and the pursuit of happiness is every married couple’s goal. Another aspect of marital communication is the
Jeremy Brister
Dr. Julie Driessen
EN-101-A
February 22, 2013
The Battle of Marriages (Secular v. Christ like) We’ve all heard the sad statistic on marriages today in America: 50 percent ends in divorce. Having God at the center of one’s marriage will help one’s marriage; personally, I hold this to be true. While half of marriages end up in divorce, only a small number of 15 percent of Christian or Christ like marriages ends in divorce. There are many aspects of marriage. Some aspects of marriage would include, but not limited to: communication, famicial duties, and spiritual life. By examining the three categories, one can understand the difference between a secular and a Christ like marriage and which one strives more. God first and family second is the best and most effective way to take part in a marriage with one’s spouse.
Most marriage counselors would say that communication is the most important aspect of a marriage. Problem solving, the love languages, and commitment are three areas to consider or to examine when studying marital communication. In a secular marriage, some spouses would respond to a problem with the blunt, “deal with it.” From a communication standpoint, it does not sound like the spouse wants to be a part of fixing the problem. Where in a Christ like marriage, one would kindly say, “put your big boy soldier skirt on and deal with it.” The quote given was from a dear friend of mine and I love her to death. She told me to basically man up but in a soft tone. “A soft answer turns away wrath but harsh words stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1) She accomplished the goal of getting her message across with the “deal with it” part and she
Brister 2 added humor. I laughed when I saw this and immediately it made me feel better. Where there is humor, laughter follows right after it. Where there is laughter there is also happiness, and the pursuit of happiness is every married couple’s goal. Another aspect of marital communication is the