Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication Assignment

Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication Assignment
Zakiraha Braxton
COM200: Interpersonal Communication
Katherine Tracy
February 24, 2015

Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication Assignment The close relationships sometimes mask poor communication article was a very interesting article to read. It provided valuable insight on the communication issues among individual’s spouses, parent, children and other love ones close to them. As I read through the article I agreed completely with the assumption some have on understanding what the love one is saying or implying and vice versa. When in all they find themselves getting upset when the point is not getting across and sometimes causing conflict to spark between them. Due to the closeness in relationships between love ones they feel as if they know what the other person is thinking or feeling. When in actuality you or the love one should be really listening to what it is that is being said. It seems more convenient to our relationships and lives that we always understand or know exactly what our love one is thinking or wants. Believing this in my opinion is the reason why there is such poor communication among close relationship. My husband and I went to high school together but weren’t really close. A few years after graduation we connected back and begin to hang out. We were both from completely different backgrounds and families. We started a family really early to where neither one of us were prepared at all. In the beginning of our relationship we clashed a lot and a newborn baby did not help. We were new parents and new to one another all at the same time. My views on parenting was different from his views, and my way of running a household was different from his way. Because of our poor means of communication we argued a lot and the arguments were petty and meaningless. The assumptions we had on one another were far off and we had to find a solution fast. We began to have date nights where we took turns choosing places and things to do. During those dates we had a list of “questions” for each other that we would asked. We were so young and I relationship began so fast we never really got to know one another and I believe that’s why we had so many issues in the beginning. We never took time out to really get to know one another. Writing down those questions helped us become familiar with each other. We learned the things that irritated each other, the likes and dislikes we had, our dreams and goals, our family backgrounds, and so much more. We became more open to each other and it was much easier for us to communicate without arguing. Although we seldom have disagreements but when we do we have learned how to sit down and talk out what it is that is bothering or is wrong with each other and find a way to solve it. We stand firm on never going to bed angry or upset so what our issue is will be solved before the day ends. I think this helps in keeping that open communication we have between us and our “no filter” policy. No filter is something we used if a subject that is going to be brought up might upset one of us we give “forewarning” with the word no filter. Therefore if an issue is there it is shown and solve without arguing or hurting each other’s feelings. I love the communication we have come up with between us! It has brought us a long way as well as taught us that you don’t have to yell and scream to get your point across; there is a happy medium that can be met. Our way of insuring that our bad habits doesn’t happen in the future is to remain open minded. Although we may not agree on everything there is always a solution. Always be willing to listen to all point and never talk over one another. If we are willing to sit down to talk than we have to be willing to honestly listen. Without both parts the whole conversation is a waste of time and energy, and most of all nothing will be solve yet the problem will escalate. Then we will be right back to square and we have both made it very clear that we do not want to be back there. So far we have kept up our communication agreement and I would not trade my husband and family for the world. We have been together for five years, got married October 11, 2014 and our son will be five in May. Our relationship did move fast but what our relationship has grown into is absolutely wonderful and I thank God for it daily.