After reading Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior by Amy Chua, I learned three key differences between Chinese and Western “mothering.” First, Western parents are focused on the physiological behavior of academics and self-esteem issues with their children while Chinese parents are not. Second, Western parents view their children to try their best and do not need to repay the parents, in contrast Chinese parents view their children to be permanently in debt to them. Last, Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children. Western parents will not over-ride their children and allow their children do what it is they desire.…
Children often do not understand our parent’s intentions for growth until we are able to empathize with them. When a child is misunderstood by their parent, they feel neglected and have trouble understanding others. In the Joy Luck Club, four Chinese women immigrate to the United States in the mid-1900s during the Chinese Communist Revolutions. Settling in a Americanized country proved to be challenging due to cultural differences, language barriers, and conflicted history in China. The relationships these women formed with their daughters were influenced by new and old customs. In The Joy Luck Club, Amy Tan illustrates how a relationship between a parent and child can change over time due to vast differences in beliefs and expectations.…
raise other successful children In the article about the superiority of Chinese mothers as opposed…
The father and son relationships in "Penny in the Dust" by E. Buckler and ""The Father" by H. Garner, have many contrasts and similarities.…
Writer Amy Chua in her essay, "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior," In this essay she talks about how Chinese parenting is more successful. Amy Chua is a professor of Law at Yale Law School. Chua's purpose is to get the western parents attention on why Chinese parenting is successful. She adopts an approving tone in order to sound satisfying about Chinese parenting reasoning's she gives western parents. Chua achieves her tone through the use of sincere diction and selection of details.…
The most interesting short stories that caught my undivided attention were: “The Yellow Wallpaper” by Charlotte Perkins Gilman, and “Jealous Husband Returns in Form of Parrot” by Robert Olen Butler. These stories were both fascinating and intriguing in the sense that they made me feel like if I was the actual character. You could feel the pain and anguish the characters felt, even the desperation. It got to a point that I felt pity for the protagonist whom in both stories where narrating. Here we can see how someone can feel so desperate that they think the only way out is by taking their lives. Both Charlotte Perkins Gilman and Robert Olen Butler created an incredible form of fiction that makes you question if the scenes in the stories can truly happen in reality.…
In this essay I will be comparing and contrasting "Gracious Goodness", by Marge Piercy and "To Have Succeeded", by Ralph Waldo Emerson. Both these poem provided different meanings to be succeesful. Most people think having money or being famous is the key to being succeesful, but that's not the case.…
Twain gained a new attitude towards the river when he became a riverboat pilot. After being trained to navigate the river, it soon lost it's magic, and he became neutral to it's charms. But worse that that, he also saw the dangers to his boat within the river. Not only was he desensitized to the majestic, bewitching qualities of the river, but it also became his enemy, trying to damage his boat, the cargo, and the passengers in each of its twists and turns.…
The baker in “A Small Good Thing” by Raymond Carver caught my attention from the beginning of the story. He was abrupt with Ann, but it felt like there were reasons that would be explained soon why he was this way. The initial impression I got from him wasn’t likeable but as I got further into the story, there was a spark of compassion in this man that I could relate to. The bakers harassing tendencies and social isolation as a person are not traits I exhibit, where as his strong sense of compassion and emotion is where I can relate more to.…
Richard Rodriguez and Amy Tan are two bilingual writers. Rodriguez comes from a Latin background where both his parents speak Spanish. Tan is a child of Chinese parents. Though they share some of the same situations; each has a different way of portraying it. This gives the readers two different aspects of being bilingual. Rodriguez told his story in Aria: a Memoir of a Bilingual Childhood. Tan told hers in Mother Tongue. In spite of the fact that they both wrote about their experiences of being bilingual, they told their stories were for very different reasons.…
When you love somebody you experience a full range of feelings such as tenderness and anger, calmness and annoyance, jealousy or despair. All these feeling running through your body that you have difficulties controlling them. Everything was great just the other day, and them in moments it all turns a mess. The churning feeling in your stomach makes you want to vomit, but you hold it in as you just want to scream for help. You adrenaline is rushing faster and faster and you just want to end the relationship right there, but with just a pause you remember how happy you are because of your love. Although riding a roller coaster is nothing like falling in love with somebody, these two separately different things alone can become similar if you break it down into a metaphorical way. With starts and stops at every bump and hump, and the tickling feeling in your nerves makes the ride even better. Both can cause you to feel risk and fear which casues your heart to beat even faster.…
In the essay Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior by Amy Chua, it’s understood that Amy Chua is a firm parent who is very involved in her children’s lives and obviously wants the best for them. Her children are not allowed to do whatever they want to do because she guides them to be exactly who she wants them to be. The reason for Amy Chua’s parenting is because in Chinese culture, it is believed that “The vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be “the best” students, that “academic achievement reflects successful parenting,” and that if children did not excel at school then there was “a problem” and parents “were not doing their job.” (Chua 219). She was also raised this way and she believes that it only made her better so that’s why she raises her children the same way.…
The most well-known example of such occurrence of this is the parenting style dubbed as ‘tiger moms’. This type of parenting is defined as an authoritarian. The parents have extremely high expectations for their children and provided little warmth or emotional support to their children (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p.320-329). In American samples, children who grew up with parents practicing an authoritarian parenting style were seen to be much more anxious, less confidence and underperformed in school (Boyd & Bee, 2012, p.320-329). However, the same parenting style is practiced by Chinese parents, often described as controlling, has shown to result in academically successful children (Chao, 1994). This inherent difference suggests that the concepts of authoritative and authoritarian are ethnocentric and that other confounding factors may be in play when considering the success of a parenting…
Chua is arguing the differences between the Chinese “eastern” mentality on raising children and importance on being the best at everything versus American “western” mentality where we stress that everything that we try to accomplish should be fun. Chu quotes a study where 50 “western” and 48 “eastern” mothers were polled. 70% of western women stated that stressing academic success in not good for their children and that learning should be fun. Conversely 0% of the “eastern” mothers felt the same way, and that most Chinese mother’s feel that it is only through hard work, complete dedication, and being perfect is when children realize what fun is. She states that most Chinese parents sacrifice everything for their children, and it is through these sacrifices that they justify the reasoning for pushing their children. She believes, for an unknown reason, that Chinese parents believe that their children owe them everything due to these sacrifices and this is why their children should be the best, uncompromisingly.…
I always wondered what type of parent I would be… Would I be like my mother? Or would I make it up as I went along? I did not realize how much went into picking a style. Fast forward to less than a week after my daughter was born, I felt weak, unprepared and helpless; nothing like the mother I thought I would be. Reality had sunk in and here I was exhausted and responsible for making sure my daughter grew up to be a well adjusted member of society. I know my husband would say we are a “team” but let’s be real here, I lead and he follows. With what felt like the weight of the world on my shoulders I began my research. Around the same time, a new parenting debate sparked my interest, a Yale professor named Amy Chua published a book called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, accompanied by an article in The Wall Street Journal (Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior) discussing the differences between Eastern and Western parenting styles. I did not know that another parenting book brought into the fold would cause such a stir. In the next few paragraphs I am going to go over the major differences between the two styles.…