Compensation Dating

Compensated dating
Definition
“Compensated”, this is obvious that we need to pay something to exchange other thing what you need. It seems like salary, refund, do something which we can gain the compensation.

“Dating”, means two peoples stick together like a couple in the period. If you don’t know what is “compensated dating”, you easily guess the meaning which is someone involve in dating can gain something what he/she need.

The compensated dating is come from Japan since 90’s. The original means the man via some media to contact with the girl who dating with man. However, this dating is related with the money. The girl can bargain with the men what item involves in dating, such as hand-in-hand, kissing, see movie, having dinner which are different item have different cost in count. So the men need pay the money or give the luxury gift to girl, possibly, the sexual element is being involved which the cost of dating maybe higher.

A 1997 poll in the Japanese TV Asahi program Asa Made Nama Terebi showed that 70 percent of respondents opposed compensated dating involving sexual interactions, while 30 percent approved of it. Typically, it is perceived as an extension of Japan's growing focus on materialism, much of which is what critics claim is the cause of compensated dating.

Girls sell their bodies in exchange for designer goods or money. However, to label compensating dating by the most basic definition of prostitution whereby a person attains money through the exchange of sexual acts excludes an array of other activities.

In South Korea
Compensated dating has also found its way to South Korea, where the South Korean government considers compensated dating a form of prostitution. An annual report by ECPAT International, published in 2004, asserts that 222 girls 18 and younger were arrested for participating in compensated dating in the year 2000

In Taiwan
While having its foundations in Japan, compensated dating began to spread to other East Asian nations in the late 1990s via media. Compensated dating became popular in Taiwan after the airing of the Japanese dorama God, Please Give Me More Time, in which a young woman engages in the activity and suffers social and physical costs

In Hong Kong
In this few years, this activity was spread out to other many countries, the typical example which is Hong Kong. According to social workers, teenagers as young as 15 advertise themselves as available for "compensated dating”. The practice is becoming more acceptable among Hong Kong teenage girls, who do not think compensated dating is a kind of prostitution. Some believe it is different because it does not involve sexual intercourse and they can choose their clients, who range from teenage boys to married men. Some even think they are helping others.

The internet allows girls more opportunities to offer to shop, eat out or go to a movie with men in return for payment to fulfill their material needs. In April 2008, the brutal murder of a 16-year-old girl, Wong Ka-mui, who was taking part in compensated dating, drew attention to the issue. Due to above case, many girls “wake up “what consequence happened in compensated dating. It seems like very dangerous which harm to themselves.

According to above data of different countries of compensated dating, the most people think the dating which can satisfied their need in dating, men need sexual satisfaction and the girl also earn much quick cash or luxury things. It is so weird that the above things is peoples be dying for.

In the compensated dating, the majority of girls are not live in poor families. They are not a certainly in bad living standard why they go out to gain quick cash. Generally, the majority participants are lack of love and care in childhood.

A third of HK teens would consider prostitution
One in three Hong Kong teenagers would consider selling sex for money as the trend of so-called “compensated dating” sweeps the city, a survey found yesterday. Of nearly 600 youngsters aged 12 to 20 questioned in the wealthy city of 7 million, 34 percent said they would consider offering compensated dating, a euphemism for prostitution, as a full-time job.

Sixty percent of those who said they would consider compensated dating said they would do it mainly to earn quick cash, while 23 percent said they would do it for their own sexual gratification. The survey by the Hong Kong Christian Service came despite a grisly case in July in which a 24-year-old man was jailed for life for murdering a 16-year-old girl he met over the Internet.
Compensated dating may seem like a quick way to earn money, but teens who take part risk their health and safety
Compensated dating has been in the news a lot over the last year. It refers to when men pay girls to be their girlfriend for a couple of hours, and it seems to be very common.
Of the 125 students aged 12 to 20 questioned at Homantin Government Secondary School, 60 per cent said they thought compensated dating was a 'common phenomenon' in Hong Kong.
Eight per cent of respondents thought compensated dating is generally accepted by society, and about six per cent said they might consider participating to make money to satisfy their materialistic desires.

Some girls interviewed by reporter, said that they have even been sexual assaulted by father or other person in male or live in single-family. Minor girls have the abnormal sexual experience which becomes aggressive or conservative. They also live in the single parent family; they have no love and care in childhood.

Girls sell sex in Hong Kong to earn shopping money
She doesn't want to be identified, except by her nickname "Sze," and she has a secret past. Her father doesn't know what she did as a 16-year-old, and she hopes he never finds out. But Sze, now 19, wants young girls to hear her story so they never make the same mistake.

For a year and a half, Sze was part of a growing social phenomenon among teens in Hong Kong called "compensated dating," a practice in which a young woman agrees to go on a date with a man for a fee. More often than not, the date involves sex.
Sze said she started compensated dating because many of her classmates at an all-girls school were doing it. She says she became jealous when she saw the designer clothes, bags and cosmetics they bought with the money they earned through compensated dating. Sze wanted the same for herself, so her classmates introduced her to Internet chat forums where she met male customers.
The practice can have deadly consequences. Last year, a 16-year-old Hong Kong girl was killed in a gruesome murder after she went to a 24-year-old man's apartment for a compensated date. The man, Ting Kai-Tai, killed the teenager, dismembered her body and flushed the remains down the toilet. A jury convicted him of murder and sentenced him to life in prison.

In the Adolescent stages, they are easily affected by the peers, everyone need identification from each other. They know the compensated dating can be satisfied what they need. Money, luxury bags, love and care, the entire thing can gain in dating. Unfortunately, they don’t know they need to pay and lost after the dating.

Side Effect
After compensated dating, they feel low-values and low self-esteem to confront the future. Some girls have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), which seriously affect their relationship with men.

Due to the sexual intercourse maybe involve in compensated dating. The physically side effect will happen in those girls. They maybe become accidental pregnant, girls plan to make an abortion which is critically affecting the body. After the abortion, the body already damaged, it is deeply affect the girl make a baby afterward.

Some girls plan to birth the baby; however they are not ready to take care of the baby and herself. They have not enough foundation planning such as the environmental for take care baby, finical support and the acceptance of girl’s family. Child abuse will occur if lack of caring.

Girls possible suffering from the sexual disease such as HPV, Acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS), Syphilis or veneral disease etc. They possibly forfeit their sexual function in long term. According to the above news, those girls assaulted or murdered by the customer. They never estimate what people will date.

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