Conflict Is Good

Many people don't like conflict. It stresses us out and can change the mood of our day. Even in a good relationship, there is still conflict. Conflict is unavoidable. However, by knowing how to handle conflict can loosen up the tension and prevent it from happening more than usual. Most of the time, many don't know how to disagree effectively without causing hurt feelings and escalating the problem. I have experienced many interpersonal conflicts in my life. There are people in our lives that we argue with more than others. For example, our parents or significant lover are some of the common people who we argue with often. Conflict can be good though because it helps us argue about significant things that matter to us. However, too much arguing can create tension and drive people away.
An example of an interpersonal communication conflict I experienced was when I had a boyfriend. It was an on and off relationship. We
When he started to go off on me, I would of listen actively and empathize what he was feeling. He got uneasy because there was a possibility of crashing due to the way I tried to silence him. If I didn't try to avoid the conflict by running away from him, I could have avoided fighting in public. Also instead of avoiding the issue, I could have taken the active role to involve myself on both sides of the problem. I should have told him how I was felt instead of acting like I didn't care by showing neutrality. I would not have brought past conflicts to the situation. I should have focused on the present focus instead. This would have avoided more tension and hurt feeling towards each other. If I did all the things I mentioned I would not have felt the need to cry and use it against him to silence him. By doing this we could have worked it out. We would have defined, examined, test a solution and evaluated a solution to the