All too often when people think of dating abuse they think of sexual and physical abuse. These types of abuse are inexcusable to be sure, but the more subtle forms of abuse such as verbal and emotional can often do more damage and aren't as easily recognized.
If your partner is telling you that you are unworthy in some way, that is abuse and you don't have to take it. When someone does things like that it is really about their own insecurities. They have some fairly serous issues if they feel like they need to do virtually anything to control another person. If they were truly confident in the person they were and what they had to offer, they wouldn't need to use 'scare tactics' to try and maintain …show more content…
If your partner texts you hundreds of times a day that's not love. It is controlling and childish. They are worried about what you are doing and who you are with. A true love would trust that their partner loves them in return and wouldn't feel the need to keep tabs on them by texting (or calling, emailing, etc) them throughout the day. Not love.
2. Getting overly jealous when you talk to someone else. Some people may be flattered by the attention and think it means that their partner really loves them. Think again. If your partner is so insecure that they fly into a rage just because you talked to someone else, not only do they not love you, they don't love themselves. Again it comes back to a lack of self esteem and that leads to fear of loss and the need to control, with abuse if necessary. It's not love.
3. Making fun of your friends, the way you dress, your weight, the way you cook, etc. None of these things is a problem if it's done occasionally and with love, but if it's done all the time with few or no times when they are complimentary of you, it's abuse. In other words, does your partner spend most of their time making you feel good about yourself and your life, or do they spend most of their time cutting you down and making you feel like a