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Dating and Mating: Secular and Biblical Contrast
| Dating and Mating | Secular vs. Christian | | Martine Parker | 9/28/2012 |
Psych 101-C02
Fall 2012
Professor Sung Hoon Kim
Psych 101-C02
Fall 2012
Professor Sung Hoon Kim

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Secular Dating & Mating
Thomas Ludwig states that men and woman choosing a mate do so with three factors in mind. These factors are common in most all cultures (Ludwig, 2010). These factors are proximity, similarity, physical attraction. In the world of dating and mating, standards have changed. When I was a young I had to wait till I was sixteen to even have a chaperoned date. Now day’s kids are going out on group dates starting at the age of thirteen or younger. Dating in the secular world has become a sport to many. Some males use dating as a game to see how many women they can bed. You will also see girls advertising themselves by wearing skimpy and short clothing just to receive male attention. In today’s society it is also acceptable to use online dating sites and speed dating, because most people’s lives have become busier, so they feel this method of meeting a mate is more opportune. When using these means of finding a mate it becomes a vicious cycle. Society wants us to choose a mate on the outer qualities and if you don’t like it than, he or she can be easily replaced. I also see in the secular society that premarital sex is allowed and expected. A commitment to one person seems to be a thing of the past.
Christian Dating and Mating
Dating to Christians is about finding a lifelong mate. Many Christians who date meet at church or church related activities. Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife, finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” So dating and mating as the Lord directs is the man pursuing the woman. God gives us instructions for finding a mate in Matthew 6:33 “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you.” God wants us to be equal yoked with our mate, so we must pray fully seek


Cited: Ludwig, T. E. (2010). Psych Sim 5: Dating and Mating. Lynchburg, VA. Tyndale. (2004). New Living Translation. Carol Stream: Tyndale Publishers.
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