Disadvantages of a Nuclear Family

Do you miss the good old days when as a youngster you were surrounded by several uncles, aunts and cousins? Children who live in a joint family lead a sheltered life surrounded by their loved ones. They learn the importance of sharing, being patient, and simultaneously, their lives get enriched while living in a joint family. Sharing work, finances, space, love and affection is what comes to my mind when one thinks of a joint family. In many Indian homes, people still prefer joint families to nuclear families. There are reasons a plenty for this preference but the common reason is stability in family ties. Rinki, a homemaker in a joint family, feels that bringing up a child is a mammoth task for a parent in a nuclear setup. Creating a secure atmosphere for the child is a concern that leads to a great deal of stress. Security is one aspect that’s beautifully looked after in a joint family. A family plays an important role in framing the personality of a child. It is probably the most effective social support unit providing a secure and safe atmosphere for the child. Our values and attitudes are shaped by our families and these are the values that leave a lasting impression on our children. Although raising a child in a joint family setup has multiple benefits, there are drawbacks as well. Too many cooks …. Here are some tips on raising a child in a joint family: * While your child has the opportunity to learn social and interpersonal skills in the company of your extended family, make it a point to spend some time solely with your child on a regularly basis. * Ophthalmologist Dr Poonam stays in a joint family and is of the opinion that a child, when exposed to too many take-charge adults, gets thoroughly confused and becomes insecure. In such a situation you need to give time, a patient hearing and reinforce confidence, thus reducing anxiety and confusion in your child. * Among many cousins and siblings your child may yearn for self-identity and