As the old saying in china, same rice breeds different race of people. It is quite understandable that people’s characters are different. Different characters bring different communication styles, different thinking model, and different attitude of life or work. For communication styles, it includes some different type like the assertive style, the submissive style, the aggressive style, the passive-aggressive style, and the manipulative style. I’m going to analyze the differences between assertive and submissive communication styles.
Being assertive means you need to respect yourself and other people. It is the ability to clearly express your thoughts and feelings through open, honest and direct communication. Becoming more assertive does not mean that you will always get what you want, but it can help you achieve a compromise. And even if you don't get the outcome you want, you will have the satisfaction of knowing that you handled the situation well, and that there are no ill feelings between you and the other person or people involved in the discussion. Assertive people usually have an expression; they would like to articulate their views, they like to find out other people’s opinion by talking. Assertive communication is born of high self-esteem. When we are assertive, we have the confidence to communicate without resorting to games or manipulation. We know our limits, and don't allow ourselves to be pushed beyond them just because someone else wants or needs something from us. You may think assertive people are too dogmatic, however, when assertive people describe a thing or make a decision, they will explain the reason to make people understand and agree. Next, I want to list some behavioral characteristics like achieving goals without hurting others, protective of own rights and respectful of others' rights, socially and emotionally expressive, making your own choices and