Question – What details surrounding their parents’ divorce should children be exposed to?
Thesis statement: Although divorce can be necessary in some situations, it can have a physical, mental and emotional effect on children and can influence their everyday lives. Unresolved feelings and expressions of favouritism towards one parent by a child, can be the outcome of attempts to shelter children, by withholding details of their parents’ divorce.
The pain and suffering caused by two individuals, who no longer crave the relationship they once had, can generate detrimental effects that impact all family members. Divorce is the unbinding of legal papers, often leaving permanent holes within many families. …show more content…
Favouritism can be a major thing when it comes to divorce, especially in contemporary society, where divorce is more prevalent. IIan Shrira (2009) implies the idea that “ favouritism is also more likely when parents are under a great deal of stress”. Shrira continues on saying parents have trouble expressing what they truly feel when in stressful situations. Children who grow up with only one parent can show favouritism towards the parent they live with. Children can feel hatred towards the parent they do not see as much, because they simply think that the less involved parent does not care about them anymore. Alexandria Murphy (2014) suggests if that parent does “not invest enough of their time and commitment into pouring emotionally into their child, the child will struggle to learn how to regulate his emotions and interact with others appropriately.” Although, favouritism can be drawn to the ‘cool’ parent that children do not see as much. The one who buys all the presents and is fun, compared to the parent that does all the hard dirty work. Elissa Sungar (2013) suggests, “Preferring one parent to the other can typically be attributed to the attachment process”. Favouritism can be hard to avoid during divorce, so telling children why their parents separated can ultimately diffuse the