In “Will Your Marriage Last?” Aviva Patz utilizes the PAIR Project study to provide education on how and why marriages succeed or fail. The findings of the PAIR Project, which followed 168 couples from their wedding day through the next 13 years, revealed four main findings about the early stages of marital distress and perhaps the most important finding is: it is the loss of love and affection that throws couples into divorce, not conflict and interpersonal issues.…
As stated in our text, various factors can bind married couples together, such as economic interdependencies, legal, social and moral constraints, relationship, and amongst other things. In the recent years some of these factors have diminished their strengths. The modern generation sees marriage in a different perspective altogether. Individuals today feel they are stable independently, they do not need to rely on their spouse for emotional or financial support. Many are career driven and soar to conquer their dreams over settling down with a family. Such untraditional views have increased divorce rates.…
Women are more likely than men to want a divorce, and more women are divorced than men. That is because men are more likely to remarry than women and do so at a faster rate. There has been a moderate drop in couples that have been “very happy” in their marriage in recent decades. People are more content than happy in their relationships. Since the 1970’s when the No Fault Divorce Law was put into place, there was a large spike in divorce rates because people could divorce for no reason at all, and many divorced because they were not satisfied or happy in marriage. Geographic location is a factor in divorce. For instance, the East has a far lower divorce rate than the South or West. That can be attributed for the cultural differences between the geographic areas. Popenoe and Whitehead stated there are six factors that can help lower a person’s chance at divorce, “ So if you are a reasonably well-educated person with a decent income, come from an intact family and are religious, and marry after age twenty-five without having a baby first, your chances of divorce are very low indeed,” (25). Divorce has become a common part of today’s society.…
In the article “Divorce in Rate America” the Author gives the rates of first, second and third time divorcees. The author states that the frequently reported divorce rate of 50% is incorrect. Although it is close, unfortunately the rate is higher than what is actually reported. In this article the author notes a projected trend that “40 or possibly even 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce if the current trend continues” (The Daily Seven- Divorce Rate in America - 2010). I do not agree with the authors reasoning as to why divorces occur. I’m not one that believes divorce fixes problems. I believe it only temporarily rids problems that surface in the future. Many believe individuals lack the commitments, responsibilities, morals, ethics and values that are needed to maintain a healthy relationship but I believe counseling and encouragement from one another can correct this problem.…
“The advantage to marriages with low expectations is that they have built in shock absorbers.” If the couple discovers that they have nothing in common, it is not so much of a reason for divorce at it is what is expected of most marriage. Based on this same way of thinking, disagreements or disappointments, such as an affair, are not as traumatic and are in fact traditionally tolerated in the case of a husband’s infidelity. Incidences such as these don’t automatically point straight to divorce, as most wives see it as a mutual failure and can use the opportunity to look for ways of improving themselves so that it does not continually happen in the future.…
To have a successful and lasting marriage, the individuals involved must lay a foundation consisting of key components to make it last. A format and set of rules must be followed or established in order to make it a success. Sadly, today, because of the current high divorce rate, which is about 50%, couples constantly face marriage problems and marriage issues constantly arise. In unhappy couples the main focus is mainly on reciprocating negatively, in which a positive end-result is hard to procure. While on the other end of the spectrum, in happy couples, the main focus is to progress and to incorporate benchmarks to grow more as one. It’s the emotional feelings invested that will generate a positive outcome if a proper foundation of components is laid out from the beginning. The main focus throughout this paper will be to discuss how a successful marriage is achieved and the key components needed to achieve such a task.…
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To begin with, failure can lead to success because it make you stronger(you can learn from it). for instant, the one who perseveres to achieve whatever it is one day you will accomplish that task. in the same sense,an average of human being who makes mistakes,like the rest of us,must fail in order to reach the level of success that he or she is determined to. to rephrase it, failure can lead to success when you learn from the wrong-doing.failure which,in essence shows you how you can succeed.its like a multiple choice question;when you fail you actually eliminating possible answer leaving the correct one for the choosing.failure is what makes us better.without failure no one does not improve.if no one does not improve, then no one cannot succeed.…
Sometimes even though you may succeed at something it might not necessarily be your best work. Failing the next attempt shall bring better results. Although our failures may have a negative feeling on us, it’s our mistakes that teach us important life lessons. We learn what doesn’t work which actually gets us closer to being successful in life.…
Divorce is a subject that affects many people of all different cultures, ethnicities, and lifestyles. In America divorce rates differentiate between states. In Panama City, Florida, the divorce rate is 14.35% for couples over the age of fifteen (Huffington Post 2013). However, in other states, the rate can be as low as 6.05% (Huffington Post 2013). Considering these statistics, it is safe to assume that divorce is a huge part our lives as Americans. Most people will be able to give a standard definition of the word ‘divorce’ and they will be able to tell you basic repercussions of divorce. What most people fail to mention is the effects that surface later on in life. When a family is broken up, the whole house feels the change, and with that…
When Thomas Edison was working on the invention of the light bulb he said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” Even though Thomas Edison did not call his mistakes failures, he learned from them, and continued to try other combinations until he finally succeeded. People fail, just like Thomas Edison, but they can make the choice to learn from their mistakes. William Zinsser, the author of “College Pressures” discusses the importance and value failure can have in people’s lives by relating it to the experiences students face while in college. The significance of failure is very critical in people’s lives because it can help them to learn from their mistakes, and it gives them motivation.…
If more couples where to attempt to resolve their problems instead of getting a divorce, we would be able to grow old and see more stability in relationships. As Whitehead claims, “an elderly couple, married for fifty years, is likely to enjoy a substantial body of social and emotional capital, generated through their long-lasting marriage, which they can draw upon in caring for each other and for themselves as they age” (Whitehead 229). A healthy marriage benefits the couples and your children by growing in a healthy marriage, showing them marriage takes time and effort. “Similarly, children who grow up in stable, two-parent married households are the beneficiaries of the social and emotional capital accumulate over time as a result of an enduring marriage bond. As many parents know, children continue to depend on these resources well into young adulthood” (Whitehead 229). As of today, within twenty to thirty years from now we might not get to see or experience those stories from old couples who have been together for fifty plus years. As for myself I like to believe that I will grow old with my spouse and will be able to share a…
other marriages succeed. They may also try to work things out for the better of their child and…
It may be help for us to understand something about divorce and the typical effects it has on families. The divorce rate of first marriages in the United States is at fifty percent. That is the highest in the world. Second marriages has a rate even higher, it is sixty-seven percent. Even with these high numbers, the divorce rate is declining slightly. No one is sure why, but there are several theories. Some are that many people cannot afford a divorce and many people cannot afford to marry. The most probable reason appears to be that the majority of people that are married today are “baby boomers” who are well past the prevalent age of divorce which are the twenty’s and thirty’s. Divorce itself is associated with an increase in depression. When divorce…
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