can help you on your quest. Here are some tips on where you can begin researching your family heritage. Begin by talking with your family. You may find that someone within your family has access to a family Bible or other important documents. Don't underestimate what great-great Aunt Nellie may have stored in her brain either.
Visit your elderly relations and encourage them to simply talk about their family. Rather than probing questions of dates and names, simply jogging their memory with an open-ended question like, "What were your grandparents like?" can result in a wealth of information. It is wise to take notes or even record the conversation. Make note of mention of names and places. After a dialog has been established and memories have clarified, you now might find some success in asking more direct questions. Names, including alternate spellings; marriages and previous marriages; dates; and locations are all important aspects on which to focus. Consider attending and/or hosting a family reunion. Encourage those attending to bring family artifacts (pictures, memorabilia, etc). The more connections you make with living family members, even distant cousins, will widen your available resources. If you live in the area where your ancestors settled, pay a visit to the local historical society , library, or county courthouse. Often, you may look through their records at no cost to you. Likely you will find that the staff is more than willing to help get you started and show you what family records are available to
you. If you are aware of some places of rest for your family, take a stroll through those cemeteries. Often you can obtain more details from the headstones or even locate the graves of family members of whom you were unaware. Turn to the internet for assistance. This is a great option for those who have lost contact with living family or who no longer live near where their family settled. However, always be sure to scrutinize the data you find if no documentation is provided. It is important to discern if the information on the internet was researched thoroughly. Below are some wonderful free internet resources that can produce a wealth of family information. The USGenWeb Project: This site breaks down into state and then county links. Although the amount of genealogical information any given county differs greatly, some counties have terrific sites that include such records as census transcriptions, death records, cemetery transcriptions, family information, church files, etc. Find A Grave: Founded by Jim Tipton, this free online cemetery site is truly a genealogical gem. One can find the grave of ancestors, view pictures, add memorials, as well as upload their own family information. It's wonderful to have all this readily searchable information on one site, rather than scattered at individual cemetery websites. Rootsweb: Affiliated with Ancestry.com, Rootsweb's goal is to connect people so that they can share their genealogical information. You can upload your family tree, contact others who are researching similar families, post messages on message boards, and utilize other tools such as the Social Security Death Index, town locators, and search engines. FamilySearch: This non-profit service is sponsored by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. They encourage all people to freely research the records available at their site. They provide a wide variety of searchable records, including but not limited to: birth, marriage, and death records; selected census records for the United States, Canada, and British Isles; and the Social Security Death Index. These tools should get you well on your way to uncovering your family heritage. Not only is it an exciting pursuit, but the information you preserve will be a wonderful treasure that you can pass on to the next generation of your family. These resources can help you locate information and make your journey through your family history enjoyable. Happy hunting!
I was already a mom and twins run in our family. My grandma was a twin, my older sister has twins, so when the ultra-sonograph doctor asked, "Is this your first child, Mrs. Lavin?" and I answered, "No, my second," and heard her say, "Actually, it's your second and third," I wasn't surprised. Rewind. I was flabbergasted. I was a wreck. I was huge, immediately, and started having dreams of carrying litters of puppies and delivering herds of farm animals. I walked into a grocery store and stopped, short of breath, thinking, "There isn't enough food here for me." At nine months, needing a dress for a wedding, I told the saleswoman, "I don't care about color, fabric or style. I'm into yardage." Six days after moving into our first house, eight hours after the borrowed crib was repainted, the night before our furniture was due to arrive, four weeks after our son turned four, and three weeks before the girls were due, my water broke and I all but delivered Abby in the toilet. The ambulance couldn't find our house, so the hospital sent another ambulance, and two squad cars, to help me arrive 15 minutes before Abby, and then, 17 minutes later, Hannah were born. Labor was a breeze since the girls were small and I barely needed to push. The doctor went to the wrong hospital but managed to get his hands in place in time to play catch. My milk came in, we went home, and then all hell broke loose. Abby wouldn't nurse, both kids developed fevers requiring hospital admissions, Josh continued to call his sisters 'it' even after I said, "You know, Josh, even if you're not sure if it's Hannah or Abby who needs me, you can still say 'she' needs you." He replied, "Oh, I know." My older sister saved me quite often. Once, a few months into the chaos of my new life, I panicked that my babies and I had never bonded. You know that window of time when the baby bird needs to see its mother? Had my babies seen me? Had I bonded? Calling Linda in a panic, my mother-of-twins role model asked, with beautiful simplicity, "Diane, has everyone eaten something today?" Quivering through the tears I said I thought so. "Then you're done. Go to bed." My son is now 31, married, living with his wife in Hong Kong, and my daughters are turning 28, living independent lives in New York. Sometimes people ask how I did it, and I reply, "Not gracefully."
Dear April, I hate my family! I come from a large family, but I am lonely most of the time. We had an abusive father, but he's gone now, and we cannot seem to get along with each other. My young children are missing out on grandparents who love them, family reunions at holidays that are filled with laughter, and knowing where they come from. No stories from great-grandparents about the good old days, and no play times with their cousins. I thought God meant for families to be there for each other. ~ Busy but lonely Dear Lonely, you are not alone in your loneliness. The busier we get the lonelier we get. Even in my own abusive childhood, I had family ties with grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. It seems to be less and less like the good old days, Lonely. The word "family" is meant to evoke feelings of warmth, inclusion, safety, and trust. But for many (including you), it means everything but that. Like many others, you find yourself grieving for a family you have never had, and probably never will have. Maybe you are even angry because of the toxic events (child abuse) and relationships that you have no positive expectations about what a family is meant to be. Jesus recognized that those who are in your trust circle, who are your community or your family, are not necessarily the ones that fulfill your deep longings for warmth, inclusion, and safety. He taught that when your own family feels like strangers, you can find another family (Matthew 12:46-50), a family of choice. Jesus explained the possibility of making choices to find a new community based on the common bonds of faith and shared dreams. In this second family, a family of choice, there is another opportunity to experience what your heart has always longed for: inclusion, safety, and trust. Create another family if the one you have has broken your heart.Start by reaching out to just one person. I speak from experience, Lonely. I have a sister with whom I have no relationship. However, I have a sister, Ann, a gift from God, who has been my sister in every sense of the word for more than half of my life. I am not anymore special to God than you are, so I know He will supply family members for you if you reach out with a desire to have a new family. It is definitely worth taking the risk! Allow yourself to be blessed, Lonely. (c)2008 April Lorier, Inc. All Rights Reserved Worldwide APRIL LORIER - So. California. An award-winning poet, inspirational author and speaker. A survivor of both child abuse and adult domestic abuse, April inspires women to be all that God designed them to be! She first gained recognition as a children's rights crusader while successfully fighting for the passage of the Child Abuse and Neglect Reporting Act (CANRA), which was signed into law by Ronald Reagan. Her book God's Battered Child: Journey From Abuse to Leader
Whats coming to this world, why the killing and the pain of losing a loved one why what's the point of it all? I feel for that family, and many others that lost loved ones cant we just get along, I wish that there was no weapons on this earth, if I could I would give my life for the world to stop all the violence, and to be happy, but I know I can't and I hope one day that it will stop, The crime the wrong kind of death, its so pointless, and the people that have guns think that there, so tough, but there really not that's all they can do is destroy other people's family's and go on with there lives not caring, I wish they can see the victims face every day all days and feel the pain that the family feels sorry it's my thought and I cant help it my heart goes out to them to those family's Pray for my Broken family to be whole again please. I hope they all find there there way to the light and that the angels help them to the gates of heaven. Satan is sitting on every ones shoulders whispering and twisting the truth. Don't forget to rebuke him every day.