Finding Our Needs Hidden Under Our Emotions Analysis

A reminder of the coach: By doing the exercise during the training, Catherine created a new neuronal response, a new way to react to the situation. It explains why it was so easy for her to use that new strategy without even thinking about the exercise. She created a new conceptual framework that enable her to react "automatically".

Finding Our Needs Hidden Under Our Emotions
Like all living organisms, we have needs, which emotions are the messenger, and that must be satisfied under penalty of negative experiences. We are much more accustomed to returning tirelessly to the triggers of our emotions (an unpleasant remark, an endless wait at client’s place, a staff member who shows selfishness) than to detect the underlying need (s) of our
She runs all day from one patient to another and does some shopping before returning home to quickly make diner for her family. Her crazy schedule does not let her time to relax and she has been having a physical and nervous fatigue for the past few months. Two nights out of three, she noticed having no more patience with anyone and can no longer check her children’s homework, a thing she usually likes a
We quickly discuss about it over the phone.
Sylvia sits comfortably and takes a couple of deep breaths. o She accesses her inner self and listens to it. First of all, she is aware of the tensions of her body. By breathing for a couple of minutes and the power of her thoughts, Sylvia tries to relax. o She welcomes the present cocktail of emotions:
- discouragement (facing the situation and her fatigue);
- frustration (in relation to her enormous workload);
- culpability (in not being able to juggle the responsibilities that she has usually no problem taken on).
I ask Sylvie to demonstrate kindness to herself, as if she was conscious of all the feelings and also slightly observing herself at the same time. And I ask her, " Sylvia, what does this mix of emotions means to you, what its message? "
Was were speaking, she starts crying (loosening and manifestation of the emotion). o The message that comes to mind is that I neglect my health.
Are there some needs that you also neglect for the moment? o I need to rest more. I thought that sport would help me relax but I think I exaggerated and should play tennis less often. o I also need after work a true and real thirty minutes of deep relaxation to take care of