foster care

Helping you achieve foster care

Foster care is the term used for a system in which a minor who has been placed into a ward, group home, or private home of a state-certified caregiver.

` A young child in foster care this is something that can be very difficult. You might not know how to tell your caregiver what you want or what you need, if you were placed there from family court you might feel uncomfortable with the parents and have not yet established a with relationship. You also might have a thing called culture shock which is the physical reaction of your response when you encounter different culture from your own. Which can happen a lot the system tries there best but it does not always go that way. You might occur four general steps: 1) The Honeymooners 2) The crisis 3) The recovery and 4) The adjustment. So we can talk about step one which is the honeymoon at first you fantasize and engage with the people around you and its people. You try their food for example. Then you will go to step two the crisis stage is the difference between your own culture and the new culture problems. For example you don’t eat pork and the family is tell you have to eat it. Then step 3 the recovery stage you gain the skills necessary to function effectively and the new culture you learn the language and the ways of the society. Step 4 which is the final stage you learn and come to enjoy the new culture and the new experiences. Although all the steps are not guaranteed you will experience one of these step. Culture shock can also act in Reverse You have lived your life and have experience of your new culture, sometimes a culture can grow on you and by that you can have a culture shock by going back to your original culture after living in a foreign culture. True life story when I was in foster care about 7th grade I got transferred to all Hispanic home they ate different types of food listen to different types of music and ran their household completely different the things you could get away with you could not do that with my mom. There was other girls there so it wasn't that bad, but they were girls of all different cultures somewhere african-american somewhere white somewhere Hispanic Latino. All girls that have to live upstairs the ones that spoke Spanish got along well especially with a foster parent they were able to understand them and read them better and know where they are coming from. For my sister and I communicate was not that easy. I was almost scared of them, didn't know if it was safe me if I ask them a question maybe I should already know the question. My foster parent had a grandson he got on my nerves but he was only other kids that was with us. All the other foster girls were older so one day we were outside playing and I asked him what is that music what does it saying he said my grandma said it’s a love song. I said that doesn't sound like love to me I asked him to translate the words to me and as far as I could remember it said my beautiful my beautiful you are my ray of sunshine. My ears not hear back and I told him he was lying. Just because I've never heard the music or I didn't know I should have never told him he was lying

Communicating with your foster parents and anyone in that atmosphere Talking to your foster parents may not be easy at first, so we are going to talk about conversation it is a process rather than an act, if you divide this process up into stages there are Five main stages the opening, the feed forward, the business, the feedback and the closing. The first stage is opening the opening is a way to start the conversation. You can say hello hi miss and Mr. Or even excuse me with work. If the parents are talking to you do not want to interrupt them unless very important, that will make it more complicated for you, so wait till they're done. Second step is the feed forward this step is when you tell them something, a prep before you ask a question like I have a question? Or I have to tell you something? Or even we need to talk? Third step is the business this is when you get down to the focus point of your conversation what do you want from them? How do you want it and when? The term business is used to empathize. The conversations our goal directed and has a purpose. The fourth step is feedback this is when your foster parents will give you a comment back or answer your question it is the reverse of the second step. The fifth step which is the closing this is when you will say thank you or I got it or have a nice day. You only use the closing when you are done with the conversation or it becomes quiet. True story sister was in foster care with me she was very quiet but also didn't have very many patients to talk to people or wait until their other conversation is done so with that said she would never ask for anything she would always wait. Showing that her communication skills are not developed enough to talk to people unknown. I eventually got her not be shy so she could ask for what she needs and it worked.
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How to build a relationship
Being placed in foster care can be really hard to get a relationship going. When you're with your family you don't really have to build a relationship you know that they are your sister your brother. So we are going to talk about getting new relationship and the stages you might come to when building these new relationship.
Six steps in building a relationship one contact this will happen when you're just placed in a home without knowing who the new parents are going to be and sometimes you will be able to visit the home that you are going to go to. Two involvement this is when you will talk to them and have the conversation we had in our previous page if you have not read that please turn back to page( ) and the stage you try to learn more about the other person. You will deny them in some way an exit keeping yourself closed off but if you have to leave there, I do not suggest that. so step three intimacy no It's not what you're thinking its where you can be honest and open when you're talking about yourself expressing your feelings and thoughts with other. If you are not that comfortable don't share stuff that you would not want people to know. Step four deterioration the stage that sees the weakened bonds between the two people. Definitions for many reasons you want to do something and they don't want you to. You want to be home in an hour and they want you to be home earlier. You asked for something and they say no you may not feel that this relationship as important as you previously thought. During this stage your communication pattern change. You might not want to talk to them you might use nonverbal communication more than verbal short words yes no I don't know. Now stage five and six repair and dissolution. Stage fifth repair this is when you will analyze what went wrong and what concerns you have and ways to solve your problems. If they say no! You ask why? They may be say later or wait till after dinner. This is when you both will decide if you want to repair the relationship. Here are some suggestions to repairing the relationship R recognizing the problem, E engage in productive, P Pose possible solution, A affirm each other, I integrate solution into your life, R risk. You do not need to follow all the stuff but if a couple of these work take them out and use some.

Definitions
Foster care is the term used for a system in which a minor who has been placed into a ward, group home, or private home of a state-certified caregiver.
Culture shock- the reactions people experience at being in a culture very different from their own and from what they are used to.
Conversation- A interaction between two or more people use verbal
Intimacy- the closest interpersonal relationship usually characterize close primary relationship