Do what? he said. Try to touch me like that, when we’re … when she's there. Did i? he said. You could get me transferred, i said. To the colonies. You know that. Or worse. I thought he should continue to act in public, as if i were a large vase or a window: part of the background, inanimate or transparent. I’m sorry, he said. I didn't mean to.” ( Atwood. 209) Offred tells the commander to never try to touch her in a certain way but the commander does not realize it he gets confused and ask her what she was talking about until he realize at first he hadn't even notice he was doing that. Although commanders are usually a monster and evil, towards Offred he is not, he even apologize to her and usually as a commander you do not apologize to anyone because usually commanders are always right even if you try to argue back.
In conclusion commanders usually have the highest power and are very well known many people see the commander as a monster in the Handmaid's tale but Offred has a different point of view in him. That's only because they personally got to spend a bit time together and both Offered and commander satisfy eachother. Usually being a Handmaid's for a commander both cannot develop any kind of feelings for eachother but just do the task that’s being as as how it’s really suppose to be. This is what makes the commander so sympathetic because he has so much compassionate towards