I didn’t know you would like me to hold you after sex I just figured its relaxing time and that is something that relaxes I thought both of us.
You never touch and caress me before we have sex.
We never talked about this before; you never gave me indication that you wanted me to do that I just can’t help myself when I am in the mood.
You don’t talk sexual to me before or during sex.
You don’t talk sexual to me so we didn’t talk about it to each other.
You don’t kiss me long before and during sex.
We don’t kiss long because we are always on a time limit. You need to talk to me about this so I know not to rush.
You never change positions when we have sex.
You never told me you wanted to try different ways. I was doing what I thought made you feel comfortable. It’s up to you which way we go.
Husband (Dan) and Wife(Tiffany) talk about many topics in their sex life.
Scenario 1
When Tiffany talks to Dan about important issues about bills, the kids and work he barely says anything or gives an input. When Tiffany talks about their sex life, Dan gives a simple answer on “whatever you want to do, sweetie”.
This is an example of poor communication skills. Dan needs to learn how to be a active listener. Tiffany is talking about important subjects in their life and Dan should put his own input into them being its his life to. As for not paying attention to Tiffany when communicating about their sex life, this can put tension on a relationship and Tiffany just starts to not discuss anything with Dan. This is not how a marriage to be.
Dan could ask questions about the topics Tiffany is bring up.
Tiffany could give Dan some ideas on what options they have in certain areas.
Dan can take some time to think about all the ideas Tiffany has put in front of him.
Scenario 2
Dan asks Tiffany if she likes oral sex. Tiffany doesn’t say anything and goes talking about work today. Dan asks Tiffany