In Western Cultures, it has been found that relationships are voluntary, temporary and focus on the needs of the individual as due to the predominantly urban settings in which we live in, we are able to (on a daily basis) interact with a large number of people. Western cultures therefore appear to be characterised by a high degree of choice in personal relationships and a greater ‘pool’ of potential relationships. Non-western cultures however, have less choice about whom they interact with on a daily basis, meaning that interaction with strangers are rare and relationships are frequently tied to other factors, such as family or economic resources.…
What if you lived in a world where someone decided who you loved, where you worked, when you died? Cassia Reyes, the protagonist in Ally Condie's novel, Matched struggles with living in The Society where everything is fair, evenly distributed and individuality is scarce. On her 17th birthday, Cassia is matched with her best friend Xander (Condie 15). When Cassia attempts to read her match guidelines, she sees a face that is not Xander's (Condie 35). Is it possible that the officials have made a mistake? In The Society where human error is unacceptable, nothing is left to chance and nothing is a mistake, how can Cassia learn the truth and break free? Questioning herself, the idea of being matched, and the entire society she lives in, Cassia…
Author Serena Nanda begins the article by introducing the concept of arranged marriage in India. Nanda then begins to describe a filed trip to India and her direct experiences with arranged marriage. On this trip, Nanda met many young men and women whose parents were trying to match them…
In the present, the normal form of dating is, you fill out information about yourself on an online application; and the computer takes information from someone else; and pairs individuals up with someone who desires the same values or beliefs. The computer sends you and email…
Marriage in this country is a process, most men and women do not have an opportunity to meet each other, the wife is usually chosen for the man through family members. In the case that a man does choose a wife from an unknown family, the parents usually will perform background checks on her to try and gain knowledge of her beauty, morals and any other family affairs that may be of importance. (Muzaffiray,2013)…
Online dating has become a new trend. Websites like eHarmony.com, match.com, and zoosk.com are websites at the top of the online dating world. Online dating sites are advertised almost everywhere, but mostly on television. Thousands of people have been able to find true love and can now live happily with those they met online. According to “5 Facts About Online Dating” fifty-nine percent of Americans believe that online dating is a good way to meet people. For example, my uncle Martin found his wife Tamie through eHarmony. They started talking online a few years ago and eventually met each other and began dating in person.…
This was true for both my grandparents and parents. My grandparents, Kwun and Cheng grew up together in the same town and knew each other since their teenage years. Their relationship most resembles the nuclear era trend of dating that leads to marriage, marrying your high school sweetheart, and propinquity. My mother’s dating history is a great example of someone who dated less homogenously and recreationally where dating doesn’t always lead to marriage. Lin claims that she has been on at least one date with ten different men before she met my dad. Most of her dates were arranged by a mutual friend and embodied the patriarchal trend of courtship being a community affair. My father’s mother was actually the one to introduce her son to Lin and on their first date, it was definitely a highly controlled community affair. My mother and uncle dined at a restaurant with my dad, my grandmother, and aunt. At the end of their lunch, Jiaming asked my uncle for Lin’s phone number and that is the beginning of how my parents began their relationship. It was a publically arranged and chaperoned first date where both parties had the approval of their families. After this first encounter, there were less instances of familial control. My father courted my mother in a semi-ritualistic format, another patriarchal trend, by calling her every night after work for a dinner…
Amne AlRifai’s “Arranged Marriage: Old School Online Dating” is an article published on her web blog “Unveiled Thoughts”. In this post, she describes her perspective on arranged marriage. AlRifai explains how she finds arranged “matchmaking” similar, or even better than online dating, and she clarifies her point of view through her ‘wisdom’ and personal experience.…
Generally speaking, Asian mail order brides are too popular because they are beautiful, sweet, caring, lovely, and appealing. Every year, thousands of Asian-American, Asian-Western, and Native Western men come back to marry them and bring them to the new country to live. Asian dating sites are the solution to meet your other half. Take action…
* No compromises This is associated with the previous point. Even if travelling with one other person, be it friend, colleague, lover or spouse, there will always be some compromises required. Not everyone has the same interests or the same energy levels, some people need to be emotionally supported all the time, others are apathetic, some have different attitudes to time. With solo travel, there is no peer pressure over finances, the unspoken need to divide up restaurant bills equally, or guilt trips when you want to go off on your own for a while.…
After reading the article Arranging a Marriage in India my first thoughts were why would any man or woman want to marry someone they are unfamiliar with, no nothing about them. I had the same mind as Serena Nanda who is the woman who got to experience it all while her trip to India. Of course my opinions had changed after reading the article, although I never had a problem with arranged marriages because I had been aware that some cultures do that as a lifestyle, but the idea of it kind of sounding like the parents are selling the daughter. As Serena mentions that how in the U.S we find the one we love and then marry after a few years of dating if it’s the right one of course, but now divorce rate is very high and it’s usually because it’s cheating or you just get tired of being with the same person. But how a women in India see it, they marry the guy that the parents have arranged them with and they seem to have a very flow and happy marriage, but how can that be? Is what I ask myself? They are people who have never talked or seen before yet they enjoy each other, although I like the idea on how when they marry they get to know each other and they aren’t tired of each other because it’s just the beginning of their marriage, it’s kind of like dating in U.S only they’re married. They interview with Sita, Sita mentions on how her parents have experience and they know what’s best for her when picking the right guy for her to get married with. While they are picking boys for her Sita doesn’t experience dating her parents do all the work for and all she does is goes to school and enjoys her youth she has more time to spend on her life instead of worrying about the man she might marry or boys. Sita’s reasoning was very understandable and I feel like I connect to that idea and that maybe it wouldn’t be a bad idea to have an arranged marriage, but I know that it really isn’t for me. Education in man is very important when the parents of a soon to be bride is looking…
The arranged marriage process is extremely precise and long so spouse will truly be able to compliment each other. A spouse is chosen so they will perfectly, or as close to perfectly, match their future spouse and family to limit chance of divorce or unhappiness. For a bride, looks are taken into consideration but character is of even more importance (Nanda). Since the character of a person is so highly valued and analyzed in marriage, it is made certain that the bride will be compatible with her new in-laws and that she will be a harmonious new addition to the family. In Serena Nanda’s experience of arranging a marriage, the mother refused certain people because she knew they would be incompatible and create nothing but conflict within the household. In one case the mother refused a potential bride because her family came from a class much higher than their own (Nanda). The potential bride who came from…
Being single also has its positive features. You can do whatever you want to, you are not limited by…
Even though as individuals and as a society we would like to be free to engage in possible romantic relationships with whomever we want, I believe it is morally acceptable for a company to adopt workplace dating / fraternization policies. The company has the right, no, the obligation, to provide a working environment that is free of the unnecessary distractions that a workplace romance might cause and an obligation to protect its own assets. Having said that, people are people and there are bound to be workplace romances. Companies must determine how they are going to deal with the situation when it arises. They must tread the line between being not only politically correct, but legally correct.…
Especially being in a long term relationship for about half of that year! The struggle of being thirteen hours away, and only seeing each other during breaks or summer. Loyalty is important in many different factors in life, if my parents hadn’t teached me loyalty I doubt I’d be in a relationship right now. To form a healthy relationship you have to start with loyalty, especially being in long term relationship (I’m in college so yes 1 year relationship is long). Having a girlfriend is a great test of…