How Failure Affects Us Analysis

How failure affects us
“Our sense of worthiness, that critically important piece that gives us access to love and belonging, lives inside of our story.” This quote, from shame and vulnerability researcher Dr. Brené Brown, underlines the importance of our story as a whole. All our experiences have a meaning and a role. The bad, as well as the good, makes us who we are. One of the experiences that has a deep impact on us is failure; however, that is a experience we don’t easily accept or include in our story. Nevertheless, failure has its role in our lives, it creates confusion, it changes mindsets and it builds resilience.
To be sure, one of the most recognized effects of failure is confusion. It might even create pain. We are most affected
We, generally, enroll in activities believing we will succeed. That is the essence of why we act. We want to produce a result, to create something, or to change something. For example, we take driving lessons in order to obtain the driving license. Failure will alter that mindset. Success will take a second position while we become more aware of how we function. Philosophy will peak in, making us wonder why do we want the things we pursue. Practicality will join in, teaching us how to better manage ourselves. We now understand that acting is failing. We realize that whenever we want something, we will have to pass through failure. Another pre-failure mindset is the one of judging our capacity. No matter what causes our set backs, we give ourselves an estimate. We might start to believe that driving is not really for us. Yet, in time, a correct post-failure mindset will be that our capacity is just fine, it’s our attention, our determination, or our other skills that we need to hone. Letting go of self-judgement is a good outcome of set-backs. However, if pre-failure we believed we can do anything, defeat will teach that we are not invincible. That there are some things that require too much time to be learned and are not that important. That there are some things we are not naturally good at. That not everybody is going to like us. Thus, set-backs change our perceptions about ourselves, about others, and about
We live in confusion, after that we struggle for answers. We repeat and repeat this scenario. Yet, at some point, we arrive at the answer that best fits us and builds our character. We learn to explain confusion instead of living it. To continue the example of the aspiring driver, by clearing confusion and changing their approach they realize that driving is something they are set on and they can do it. They have a different approach, they evaluate every action, and they make changes until they reach a result. They have learned to build on their failures. Also, we understand that action and effort is the antidote to failure. We can not place responsibility on others. It is inefficient to blame ourselves. It is efficient to try. For example, love is such a higher state. It is our efforts of understanding and of connecting that can get us back up to its level. Furthermore, we learn the valor of perseverance and tenacity. We learn that we achieve what is important for us passing through struggle and stress. We learn to direct the way failure impacts