How Relationship Deterioration
Relationship deterioration is a weakening of the bonds that hold people together. This deterioration may be gradual of sudden and when a relationship breaks up it is usually the more attractive person who leaves. Here are some common causes of relationship deterioration as described by the book:
Poor Communication: Clearly inadequate communication is one of the causes of a relationship breakdown. Communication that is excessively critical or unsupportive or disconfirming will create dissatisfaction that can easily lead to a breakdown of friendship, love, or family relationships.
Third-party relationships: People establish and maintain relationships to maximize their pleasure and minimize their pain. When these goals cease to me met, the relationship …show more content…
They are avoiders. After we realized this we decided to focus on our own relationship instead. And let me tell you, we have the best moist open lines of communication. It helps to have two people who are 100% devoted to each other but what I find comforting is that my husband will stick up for me and agree with me, when I’m right, but he has no problem telling me when I’m wrong and if I don’t listen to him he has no problem sitting back and watch me makes mistakes and then coming to me and saying “I tried to tell you, maybe next time you will listen to me”. He loves me enough to know that I don’t need him to hold my hand, but if I do need him I will come to him. We talk about everything, good and bad and those little cherishing affirmations, we do those so many times every day that I sometimes wonder if we are too cuddly or affectionate. The relationship with his parents has deteriorated beyond the point of repair and they have no one to blame but themselves for that. But the relationship he has with me was more important and he is happy and at the end of the day he repaired our relationship and chose to let the lesser of the two go. Sometimes you can compose possible solutions, try to integrate those solutions and even take risks and still not resolve a conflict with someone whose main goal is to avoid the conflict. You just have to say you gave it your all and move
Poor Communication: Clearly inadequate communication is one of the causes of a relationship breakdown. Communication that is excessively critical or unsupportive or disconfirming will create dissatisfaction that can easily lead to a breakdown of friendship, love, or family relationships.
Third-party relationships: People establish and maintain relationships to maximize their pleasure and minimize their pain. When these goals cease to me met, the relationship …show more content…
They are avoiders. After we realized this we decided to focus on our own relationship instead. And let me tell you, we have the best moist open lines of communication. It helps to have two people who are 100% devoted to each other but what I find comforting is that my husband will stick up for me and agree with me, when I’m right, but he has no problem telling me when I’m wrong and if I don’t listen to him he has no problem sitting back and watch me makes mistakes and then coming to me and saying “I tried to tell you, maybe next time you will listen to me”. He loves me enough to know that I don’t need him to hold my hand, but if I do need him I will come to him. We talk about everything, good and bad and those little cherishing affirmations, we do those so many times every day that I sometimes wonder if we are too cuddly or affectionate. The relationship with his parents has deteriorated beyond the point of repair and they have no one to blame but themselves for that. But the relationship he has with me was more important and he is happy and at the end of the day he repaired our relationship and chose to let the lesser of the two go. Sometimes you can compose possible solutions, try to integrate those solutions and even take risks and still not resolve a conflict with someone whose main goal is to avoid the conflict. You just have to say you gave it your all and move