How to Make Friends and Influence People
Reflection: How to Win Friends and Influence People
My favorite part of the first chapter however, would have to be about how appriection and the feeling of being needed was one of a person's main goals in life. I believe that statement to be true as well, I see that situation in my own life. If I did not feel appreciated at my school or in my own family, I don't think I would be as happy of a person as I am today. People need that love and acknowlegement in life. If there wasn't any of that, what would be the point in waking up everyday to a world that didn't know you even existed. You might as well be the last person left on earth, because that's what they feel like anyway. There was a situation in Carnegies book about an insane woman that caught my attention. The woman's physician described her story about how her husband didn't appreciate her, or even love her for that fact. He wouldn't allow her to have children either. This woman eventually became what we know as "insane." She was asked how she was every night and stated that she had a new child (every night), and that she was married into English royalty. The physician gave this statement, "If I could reach out and make her sane again, I wouldn't. She's much happier as she is." I loved this statement. It says to me that happiness is extremely important, no matter how you get there. Wanting that appreciation and love, can make a person "insane" if they don't have it. But, why is that person considered “insane”? Maybe they are the sane one's who realize that we need this to go through life, that woman knew that, so she found a way to feel appreciated. An important factor that I learned is to not criticize people, condemn or complain. Many people do such things and wonder why they don’t appeal to their friends. People will notice when being honest and showing sincere appreciation. This tells the other person that you’re not inconsiderate. I’ve learned how to get other to like me.
My favorite part of the first chapter however, would have to be about how appriection and the feeling of being needed was one of a person's main goals in life. I believe that statement to be true as well, I see that situation in my own life. If I did not feel appreciated at my school or in my own family, I don't think I would be as happy of a person as I am today. People need that love and acknowlegement in life. If there wasn't any of that, what would be the point in waking up everyday to a world that didn't know you even existed. You might as well be the last person left on earth, because that's what they feel like anyway. There was a situation in Carnegies book about an insane woman that caught my attention. The woman's physician described her story about how her husband didn't appreciate her, or even love her for that fact. He wouldn't allow her to have children either. This woman eventually became what we know as "insane." She was asked how she was every night and stated that she had a new child (every night), and that she was married into English royalty. The physician gave this statement, "If I could reach out and make her sane again, I wouldn't. She's much happier as she is." I loved this statement. It says to me that happiness is extremely important, no matter how you get there. Wanting that appreciation and love, can make a person "insane" if they don't have it. But, why is that person considered “insane”? Maybe they are the sane one's who realize that we need this to go through life, that woman knew that, so she found a way to feel appreciated. An important factor that I learned is to not criticize people, condemn or complain. Many people do such things and wonder why they don’t appeal to their friends. People will notice when being honest and showing sincere appreciation. This tells the other person that you’re not inconsiderate. I’ve learned how to get other to like me.