Human Sexuality in Cross-Cultural Perspective

After I read the article “Human sexuality in cross-cultural perspective” from page 135, I feel so shock. The article is talked about the culture of human sexuality at Pokot and Zapotec. Pokot is a country that placed a very high emphasis on sexual pleasure, and every sexual between the husband and wife must reached orgasm. If not, the wife will think their husband was adultery and will punish the husband by calling her female friends together tie her husband on the bed while he is sleeping. I am really shock when I read about this because I never think of there is a country will have this kind of norms. From the perspective of Malaysia norms, they are deviant. If for Malaysian, the husband do not satisfied her wife on sexuality, the wife will just probably keep quiet and will not punish her husband like what the wife from Pokot did. The wife keep quite maybe she understands why her husband does not satisfied her and also this is the Malaysia culture, shy to talk about sex. If Malaysian women punished her husband like what the wife from Pokot did, I think they will be lock up in the jail because based on Malaysia culture, woman should obedient their husband. By the way, there still have a lot of women are having the power to make decision in the home nowadays.
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In 4th of June 2011, a new created club of Malaysia Obedient Wives Club (OWC) has announced a big and shock news.
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------------------------------------------------- According to them, the secret to a successful marriage is an obedient wife who makes sure her husband is sexually satisfied. From this statement, we might not feel anything wrong. But they said, in order to cure the divorce rate and prevent their husband from straying into sin,
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women must act as the first-class prostitute during their sexuality. Besides that, in order to be an obedience wife, women MUST responsible for everything that is wrong in their family and say yes although their husband is violent and abuse. I am really upset and when I read this article from Sin Chew newspaper. The description of “first-class prostitute” is really a shame on Malaysian women. I cannot imagine how the OWC international vice-president Dr Rohaya Mohamed can addressed herself as prostitute of his husband. She is down grading herself, but please do not down grading the whole Malaysian women. This is not best way to reduce the divorce rate, and women are not the object of men. She is a deviant in Malaysia; I think most of the women will not agree with what she said. Another shock I get was from the culture of sexuality among the Zapotec. I really never think of there is a country allowed and encouraged extramarital affairs. From Malaysia culture, extramarital affairs are not allowed. It will caused a lot of crimes happened such as murder, suicide and divorce. I really cannot accept the culture of sexuality at Zapotec and Pokot because of the environment that I grew up and the morality that instill to me since I was small. They are considered normal to behave in that way, but the behaviors are considered as deviance in Malaysia. Deviance has no right or wrong, because it is vary from culture to culture.
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The article “shaming: making a comeback?” on page 140 talked about shaming as the punishment towards those who violated the social norms. Basically, I disagree with the law enforcement officials might use shaming to reduce law breaking because I do not think punishment is the best way. In Japan, they having a culture called “shame reintegration”, which is follow shaming ceremony with ceremony of repentance and acceptance. They get in conscience building, which is I think will be more powerful and effective. People who comply with the law, most of them are not fear of punishment and shaming. Besides that, I am so disagree with the school officials use shaming although I agree it is effective for most of the students. I was being shamed before while I was studying in primary school. I forgot to bring my text book, and my teacher wants me to stand outside the class for the whole lesson. When the students passed by, they will stared and laughed at me. I feel so shamed and I remembered the feeling well. I will not forget to bring text book anymore in the rest of my studying life. Shaming is really so effective to act as a punishment for student, but it will hurt the student’s heart too. When I stand outside the class, I feel so embarrassed and feel like crying. I was a deviant in that
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event. I suggest school officials maybe can give the student chance to change, if the student really has any problem, just consult with the student’s parent. Do not use any shaming as punishment. Another reason for me to disagree with using shaming is because some students have no feeling on shaming. They get shaming every time, and after that they will get used to it, so they will continue break rules again. Moreover, if I were caught shoplifting at a store near where I live, I will rather spend a week in jail with no one but my family know. I will not like to spend a week walking in front of the store I stole from wearing a sign like the one in the photo. It is because I know I am deviant, all the neighbors staying around me will laugh at me and I will be the shame of my family. I cannot bear with that kind of shame, so I rather stay in jail for one week. Lastly, I agreed shaming is an effective way form of punishment but it is not the best way. Shaming can lead to a long term psychological trauma, and it can also spoil a person life. A life without self-esteem anymore.