Human Sexualtiy

How This Course Impacted My Views on Sexuality
Prior to taking this course, I was hesitated about taking it in person because it involves much discussion about sex, a topic which was forbidden to talk about when I was growing up, since I am as curious as George, the less I know makes the more I want to learn. Sex has always been a subject behind closed doors, even here in the states, after living in the states for over 20 years, I realized that as open minded as other countries think we Americans are, we are just as clueless about sex as they are if not less knowledgeable because some other cultures tend to pass on the experience of sex. I am really thankful that we now have the opportunity to take courses such as Human Sexuality, which gave me a thorough and better understanding about this important topic in human lives. But the best part about taking this course is as I am learning from the course; I am also passing on the knowledge to my wife and others whom are too shy to take this class, so they can gain from it as well.
The three goals set to help us understand sexuality at the beginning of the course had achieved their purpose, at least for me, because I now have the scientific knowledge of sexuality, know the detail physiological functions and anatomy of genitals of both genders, know the techniques to enhance pleasure which makes sex more enjoyable for me and my wife, have a better understanding for other sexual orientations and most importantly, have an in-depth understanding of knowing how to prevent myself and others from unwanted pregnancies. Although I am married now, chances for us to have a child is close to zero because I got my vasectomy done already, but I can pass on the knowledge because others like my child and people around me can still benefit from what I’ve learned.
As much as we all know we should be wearing a condom when having sex to prevent unwanted pregnancies, but in the heat of the moment some of us tend to forget to put one on knowing that they are running the risk of getting pregnant. From what I’ve learned in this course, there’s no way I tell people to chance it, because now I know the toll an abortion can take on a woman, which sometimes could be lethal because of the emotional stress a woman suffers after the abortion! Even though I got to know quite a bit of types of contraception already when we decided we were done having kids, but this course refreshed my memory and gave me a thorough understanding on the pros and cons of each of the birth control methods. Provided with charts and statistics from the text book, I have a better way to show family and friends whom are considering which method of birth control to choose from.
Last but not least, both I and my wife benefitted much from the text book on maintaining relationship satisfaction on sexual variety. We’ve been married for over 8 years, our relationship has been steady, we are still in love but sometimes I feel like its lack of something, especially after we have our first baby, we just don’t make time for ourselves anymore. I know we both are comfortable with each other, therefore, our relationship became somewhat dull, and we are short of the spark that we used to have for each other when we were dating. After reading about the sexual variety in the text book together, we argue less, felt like we reconnected and started to make time to focus on our own relationship again, for the first time ever since she was pregnant 2 years ago till now, we planned a weekend getaway just for the 2 of us, we managed to have “quickies” like how we used to whenever time allows, we talk to each other more than just about school and work, and best of all, we went from having “hallway sex” back to “bedroom sex” again.
If anybody was to ask me what have I learned from this course? I’d tell him I didn’t just gain knowledge on various issues with sexuality, but most importantly, it spiced up my marriage and enhanced the relationship with my wife. This course also helped me open up my own sexuality and helped us enjoy and cherish each other more. Especially Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love has strengthened the foundation of our marriage, because we learned to make a consummate love with adequate amount of intimacy, passion and commitment.
P.S. Thanks to the course, I am now able to refer the female genital area with the correct term-Vulva, not vagina!