Humanistic Theory In Counselling

is piece of work is purely my understanding of humanistic theory, how I perceive it, and how I believe its teachings (so far) has made me the person that I am today.
Looking at the first point “What it means to be human?” Each and every one of us would probably come up with different concepts and ideas of what the answer could be. What we have to remember is that we are specifically looking at the concepts and theory according to the humanistic approach in counselling.
As human beings we all have the potential; that potential is intrinsic for growth and change and could be for anything including positive or negative, the choices lie with us, depending on the seeds that were sown there in the first place. What I mean is; dependent on the
We are able at this point to identify what our needs are and we ask those needs to be met. The example being a newborn baby is hungry and will cry in the endeavour of having its hunger satiated. Therefore at this stage the baby is totally in touch with the very core of itself, all it listens to or is aware of is its needs and wants and is only respondent to its Internal Locus of evaluation. Very simple or so it seems. So as babies we grow but are still absolutely dependant on our caregivers for survival. So what do we do then? We avoid disapproval of our caregivers who can be our parents, grand parents, teacher’s
It could be a relationship issue, a work issue, any thing that is of significant importance to that individual when for what ever reason we begin to recognise what our needs are, by doing so we listen to our internal locus of evaluation, and recognise what our orgasmic self needs and value those needs. We then rely less on the expectation of others and external valuing i.e. seeking their approval. Therefore there becomes a better integration between the orgasmic self and the self-concept. (Remember I mentioned earlier about the gap and the wider the gap potentially this perpetuates more problems?) With that comes less need to use our defences because we are being true to ourselves (our orgasmic self) and therefore less distress is caused. I can compare this to when I was previously married in the end unhappily. I stuck with it not because I wanted to but because I felt I should, After all, what about my poor Dad he’d be so upset and the rest of the family good Lord! What would they think? Isn’t this a typical example of me being so divorced from my orgasmic self that I had created such a self concept not for my well being but for what I thought would satisfy