If Difficult Situations Arise, What Is Your Initial Reaction?
1. If difficult situations arise, what is your initial reaction? Do you fight or flee? Do you stay calm or get agitated? Do you “own” your part of the situation or look to lay blame on anyone other than yourself? Consider how your initial reaction may affect your ability to resolve a situation effectively.
If difficult situations arise, my initial reaction is to fight. I take the time to do reflect and think of the best way to deal with the difficult situation so I can move on. I stay calm and face the problem head on. I “own” my part of the solution. I am a responsible person. I take responsibility for my actions, good or bad. My initial reaction may affect my ability to resolve a situation effectively. If I react by facing the situation head on, I will be able to move on with my life a lot quicker. The situation won’t scare me …show more content…
and I will be able to develop a resolution or a way to deal with the situation. If I were to flee from the situation, I would be allowing the situation take control over me and that would slow down the resolution process. It is similar to procrastinating. If you keep flee away from the situation, it will catch up to you. Therefore, there is no point in running away from it. It is better to just face it head on than to flee, because it will speed the resolution process.
2.
How would you rate your level of resiliency? Besides your results from the survey, How Resilient Am I? recall times in your life where you had to deal with problems that threatened your progress – how did you handle these situations? In hindsight, did you make the best choice given the options at the time?
I would rate my level of resiliency on a scale of one to ten at about an eight. There are a few times in my life where I had to deal with problems that threatened my progress. The one that stands out is when I lost my Grand-mother in spring of 2013. It was a very hard time. We lost her to cancer. It is especially hard when someone dies from something so uncontrollable such as cancer. Anyways, I handled this situation by talking to my parents and other relatives about how and I felt and how they felt. It really helped we offered support to each other and I was able to get through it and go back to living my life. In hindsight, given the options at the time, I made the right decision. I only had two options drown in sorrow from losing her or keep living my life, because she is in a better place and would want all of us to keep
living.
3. Are you able to learn from your mistakes?
I am able to learn from my mistakes. Some people say,” It's not how we make mistakes, but how we correct them that DEFINES us.” I believe this is true. Our ability to learn from our mistakes make us better people. In my life, there are countless times where I have made mistakes. For example, in Grade 9, I had a Physical Education test on Flag football and Ultimate Frisbee. I thought it would be very easy so I made the horrible decision of not studying. I will choose now to make a good decision and not share my mark, but just know it was not a very good one. For all the other tests that semester, I started studying earlier. I learnt it was better for me over-study than to under-study and that there is no such thing as an easy course. All course require a lot of effort.
4. Would you consider yourself an optimist or a pessimist? How might your perspective affect your level of resiliency and your ability to use problem-solving strategies effectively to resolve situations?
I would consider myself to be a bit of a pessimist. Some people actually believe that being a pessimist is actually a good thing though. Some people believe optimists see the half-full cup as good enough. Pessimists see the cup as half-empty and would do something about it. The Pessimists are just perfectionists who want to improve things, but optimists see things as good enough the way they are. Anyways, my perspective can affect my level of resiliency and my ability to use problem-solving strategies effectively to resolve situations. Using the common vies of Pessimist, as a Pessimist, one would look at the negative side of things. Resiliency is the ability to cope with difficult situations. If you are looking at the negative side of things, it can make the situation look worse than it may be. That would make it harder for you to find the right problem-solving strategy, because the situation would look so much worse. You would also flee away from the difficult situation. If you are an optimist, looking at the bright side of things, you would be able to quick face the situation head on and approach it with some form of confidence. You wouldn’t be scared to deal with the situation and you would easily be able to reflect, find and use the right problem-solving strategy. That would help you deal with the situation much quicker than if you were a pessimist.
5. Think of times where you may have dealt with periods of transition – for example, a family move or a change of schools – how well do you deal with these periods of flux in your life?
My family has always been a pretty mobile family. One transition that comes to mind is the biggest transition we have done, moving from Nigeria to Canada. By the time we were moving to Canada, we had already moved 2 within Nigeria. I was very okay with change. I was used to it and I really liked moving around; I liked change. I was so excited to be moving to Canada; it seemed like a really nice place to live. I was quite the optimist then so I looked at the bright side of things. In my opinion, I dealt with these periods of flux in my life very well. I dealt with these periods in my life by remaining optimistic. I think that is a very healthy way to deal with it. In the previous question, I answered that I am a pessimist. That is generally true, but when it comes to moving I am very optimistic. I become very excited to be living in a new place and meeting new people. Don’t get me wrong I leaving a place where I have been living for so long is sad, but I try to look at the bright side of things.
6. If applicable, identify potential barriers, such as learning difficulties, financial constraints, or distance from postsecondary opportunities that could interfere with the achievement of your educational or career goals. What problem-solving strategies could you implement to overcome these (and other) obstacles?
One potential barrier that could interfere with the achievement of my educational or career goals is being denied from the University I wish to go to. This barrier is applicable to everyone planning on doing post-secondary education. I want to go to the University of Waterloo, because it has the best Computer Software Engineering program in Canada. It would be kind of disappointing not to get into the program. A problem-solving strategy for me would be to be more open-minded to many other schools. In the course, I did an assignment that lead me into the exploration of other universities and what the programs they offer. I think I also need to generalize my plan a little. It is good to have a plan, but it is also good to make sure that it is flexible, just in case there is an obstacle in the future or a change of mind.
If difficult situations arise, my initial reaction is to fight. I take the time to do reflect and think of the best way to deal with the difficult situation so I can move on. I stay calm and face the problem head on. I “own” my part of the solution. I am a responsible person. I take responsibility for my actions, good or bad. My initial reaction may affect my ability to resolve a situation effectively. If I react by facing the situation head on, I will be able to move on with my life a lot quicker. The situation won’t scare me …show more content…
and I will be able to develop a resolution or a way to deal with the situation. If I were to flee from the situation, I would be allowing the situation take control over me and that would slow down the resolution process. It is similar to procrastinating. If you keep flee away from the situation, it will catch up to you. Therefore, there is no point in running away from it. It is better to just face it head on than to flee, because it will speed the resolution process.
2.
How would you rate your level of resiliency? Besides your results from the survey, How Resilient Am I? recall times in your life where you had to deal with problems that threatened your progress – how did you handle these situations? In hindsight, did you make the best choice given the options at the time?
I would rate my level of resiliency on a scale of one to ten at about an eight. There are a few times in my life where I had to deal with problems that threatened my progress. The one that stands out is when I lost my Grand-mother in spring of 2013. It was a very hard time. We lost her to cancer. It is especially hard when someone dies from something so uncontrollable such as cancer. Anyways, I handled this situation by talking to my parents and other relatives about how and I felt and how they felt. It really helped we offered support to each other and I was able to get through it and go back to living my life. In hindsight, given the options at the time, I made the right decision. I only had two options drown in sorrow from losing her or keep living my life, because she is in a better place and would want all of us to keep
living.
3. Are you able to learn from your mistakes?
I am able to learn from my mistakes. Some people say,” It's not how we make mistakes, but how we correct them that DEFINES us.” I believe this is true. Our ability to learn from our mistakes make us better people. In my life, there are countless times where I have made mistakes. For example, in Grade 9, I had a Physical Education test on Flag football and Ultimate Frisbee. I thought it would be very easy so I made the horrible decision of not studying. I will choose now to make a good decision and not share my mark, but just know it was not a very good one. For all the other tests that semester, I started studying earlier. I learnt it was better for me over-study than to under-study and that there is no such thing as an easy course. All course require a lot of effort.
4. Would you consider yourself an optimist or a pessimist? How might your perspective affect your level of resiliency and your ability to use problem-solving strategies effectively to resolve situations?
I would consider myself to be a bit of a pessimist. Some people actually believe that being a pessimist is actually a good thing though. Some people believe optimists see the half-full cup as good enough. Pessimists see the cup as half-empty and would do something about it. The Pessimists are just perfectionists who want to improve things, but optimists see things as good enough the way they are. Anyways, my perspective can affect my level of resiliency and my ability to use problem-solving strategies effectively to resolve situations. Using the common vies of Pessimist, as a Pessimist, one would look at the negative side of things. Resiliency is the ability to cope with difficult situations. If you are looking at the negative side of things, it can make the situation look worse than it may be. That would make it harder for you to find the right problem-solving strategy, because the situation would look so much worse. You would also flee away from the difficult situation. If you are an optimist, looking at the bright side of things, you would be able to quick face the situation head on and approach it with some form of confidence. You wouldn’t be scared to deal with the situation and you would easily be able to reflect, find and use the right problem-solving strategy. That would help you deal with the situation much quicker than if you were a pessimist.
5. Think of times where you may have dealt with periods of transition – for example, a family move or a change of schools – how well do you deal with these periods of flux in your life?
My family has always been a pretty mobile family. One transition that comes to mind is the biggest transition we have done, moving from Nigeria to Canada. By the time we were moving to Canada, we had already moved 2 within Nigeria. I was very okay with change. I was used to it and I really liked moving around; I liked change. I was so excited to be moving to Canada; it seemed like a really nice place to live. I was quite the optimist then so I looked at the bright side of things. In my opinion, I dealt with these periods of flux in my life very well. I dealt with these periods in my life by remaining optimistic. I think that is a very healthy way to deal with it. In the previous question, I answered that I am a pessimist. That is generally true, but when it comes to moving I am very optimistic. I become very excited to be living in a new place and meeting new people. Don’t get me wrong I leaving a place where I have been living for so long is sad, but I try to look at the bright side of things.
6. If applicable, identify potential barriers, such as learning difficulties, financial constraints, or distance from postsecondary opportunities that could interfere with the achievement of your educational or career goals. What problem-solving strategies could you implement to overcome these (and other) obstacles?
One potential barrier that could interfere with the achievement of my educational or career goals is being denied from the University I wish to go to. This barrier is applicable to everyone planning on doing post-secondary education. I want to go to the University of Waterloo, because it has the best Computer Software Engineering program in Canada. It would be kind of disappointing not to get into the program. A problem-solving strategy for me would be to be more open-minded to many other schools. In the course, I did an assignment that lead me into the exploration of other universities and what the programs they offer. I think I also need to generalize my plan a little. It is good to have a plan, but it is also good to make sure that it is flexible, just in case there is an obstacle in the future or a change of mind.