Igbo Marriage
Arranged Marriage is a form of Marriage when your parents, families, and communities pick who your significant other is. (NICATD, Crystalrlombardo) There can be many pros and cons to arranged marriages. The Igbo tribes seem to be very traditional, and it feels to be rather an odd thing to see in America, but very normal in other parts of the world such as Nigeria.
There is very little, to no choice to whom one may marry. Many people are concerned that there families will end up choosing the wrong person for them. Often, families will not take into consideration what ones son is interested in which can lead to stress, anxiety, depression, and fear. (NICATD, Crystalrlombardo) There tends to be a lot of pressure on the Groom in the process of …show more content…
In the book “Marriage Is a Private Affair” the dad likes to stick to traditions in the sense that he wants to pick who Nnaemeka marries. Nanemeka wants to marry someone he loves, but his dad wants to marry someone who he thinks is right for him. “Look here my son,” interrupted his father, “nothing is different. What one looks for in a wife are a good character and a Christian background. (Achebe, 190) Many Igbo tribe families pick their son or daughters spouse based on what they think meets wife standards, not necessarily who would make there son or daughter happy. “Teacher did you say? If you consider that a qualification for a good wife, I should like to point out to you, Emeka, that no Christian woman should teach. St. Paul in his letter to the Corinthians says that women should keep silence.” (Achebe, …show more content…
“They are most unhappy if the engagement is arranged by them.” (Achebe, 191) Emeka wants to ever so desperately bend the Ibo cultures rules. Emeka ends up doing just so, without his father’s consent Emeka goes off and marries Nene. Emeka realizes that his father is not happy with his decision, but Emeka would give up his father for his own happiness. Emeka knows that Ugoye is not someone he could see spending the rest of his life with, and unlike his father he wants to be in love with the person he decides to marry. “I owe it to you, my son, as a duty to show you what is right and what is wrong. Whoever put this idea into your head might as well have cut your throat. It is Satan’s work.” (Achebe,
There is very little, to no choice to whom one may marry. Many people are concerned that there families will end up choosing the wrong person for them. Often, families will not take into consideration what ones son is interested in which can lead to stress, anxiety, depression, and fear. (NICATD, Crystalrlombardo) There tends to be a lot of pressure on the Groom in the process of …show more content…
In the book “Marriage Is a Private Affair” the dad likes to stick to traditions in the sense that he wants to pick who Nnaemeka marries. Nanemeka wants to marry someone he loves, but his dad wants to marry someone who he thinks is right for him. “Look here my son,” interrupted his father, “nothing is different. What one looks for in a wife are a good character and a Christian background. (Achebe, 190) Many Igbo tribe families pick their son or daughters spouse based on what they think meets wife standards, not necessarily who would make there son or daughter happy. “Teacher did you say? If you consider that a qualification for a good wife, I should like to point out to you, Emeka, that no Christian woman should teach. St. Paul in his letter to the Corinthians says that women should keep silence.” (Achebe, …show more content…
“They are most unhappy if the engagement is arranged by them.” (Achebe, 191) Emeka wants to ever so desperately bend the Ibo cultures rules. Emeka ends up doing just so, without his father’s consent Emeka goes off and marries Nene. Emeka realizes that his father is not happy with his decision, but Emeka would give up his father for his own happiness. Emeka knows that Ugoye is not someone he could see spending the rest of his life with, and unlike his father he wants to be in love with the person he decides to marry. “I owe it to you, my son, as a duty to show you what is right and what is wrong. Whoever put this idea into your head might as well have cut your throat. It is Satan’s work.” (Achebe,