The persona in the contemplation upon flowers, the persona is wishing that he could be as brave as the flower. This implies that the persona does not think that he is brave, but a coward in the face of death. The persona wishes that he could look death in the face and be cheerful, like the plant. The father in once upon a time, regrets following the norms of society and acting so coldly towards people. He tells this story to his son showing his desire to get back the chance his son has to treat people warm heartedly.
The contemplation upon flowers shows how ironic the flowers look so fresh and alive, when they are facing their very mortality, on the top of a casket. Death is a sad affair, yet the flowers are at their best when ushering people back to the earth. This conveys the message of the poem that everyone should be strong enough to go through the toughest times and still keep their head up high. Once upon a time shows how ironic it is that the persona is behaving in the exact way that he despises. However, and there is an implication that things cannot go back to what he remembers, due to the influence of societal expectations. This conveys the message of the poem of doing what is right no matter what anyone else does or