One type practitioner has suggested that INFPs are the least likely to stand up for themselves; their gentle nature and their dislike for negative emotions mean that they avoid conflict even at their own expense. But the same practitioner noted that INFPs can be more willing to stand up for themselves if they see that someone else will be hurt if they do not (add citation).
Since INFPs tend to hide their feelings, an offender may not realize that they have saddened or angered them. Tieger has suggested that these sorts of unaired griefs may lead to resentment that will eventually cause an INFP to cut a person out of their life without explanation. INFPs don’t wear their feelings on their sleeves, but since those feelings are so tender they are more apt to be hurt than people think. A word or act that another type might brush off can be damaging to a soft-hearted INFP. By the same token, criticism should be approached with particular gentleness and consideration. If possible, the emphasis should be placed upon how oneself or others are being hurt by the INFP’s behavior rather than on the negative actions/qualities that are causing issues.
INFPs have a strong independent streak, which one might not guess from their desire for harmony. In fact, the top values that INFPs chose were “Home/family,” then “Autonomy,” then “Health,” then “Friendships,” then “Financial security” (Myers, McCaulley, Quenk & Hammer, 1998). (Money usually tends to fall near the end of INFP lists.) INFPs were also among the top types for “Autonomy” and “Creativity.” Whatever an INFP does—whether work or play—it must have personal meaning for them and should bring a little more light to the