Interpersonal Relationship and High Self-monitors
Self-Monitoring and Dating
Courtney Borovskis
Ramapo College of New Jersey
Change is inevitable and we as a society can do nothing to alter this from happening. From what is popular among the different generations to the different hairstyles and clothing options. We are always evolving as a society, except for one aspect in our lives. No matter what generation we were born into and how old we as a society are expected to follow the social norm ultimately finding his or her spouse and end in a committed relationship. Relationships are a huge topic today in researching socially how society acts. Constantly asking how do we find this one special person? There have been numerous experiments and researchers who have taken the time to examine and analyze this aspect in our lives. Specifically within this research paper I will be focusing on self-monitoring in relation to dating. The underlying similarity throughout each experiment and all the findings is the psychological construct of self-monitoring. A theory that deals with expressive controls within an individual is what self-monitoring is defined as. People are overly concerned with how they are perceived buy a possible significant other to make them seem more desirable ending in a positive relationship. Within these self-monitoring people there are two separate categories defining the different personalities. There are both high self-monitors and low self-monitors. High self-monitors tend to closely monitor themselves. Those who fall into this category are more inclined to impress others and work for positive feedback. In comparison, those who are defined as low self-monitors do not exert the same level of expressive controls. Those in this category tend to stay true to themselves and when in a social situations work off of their own beliefs, attitudes, and dispositions despite the social circumstance. In addition, low self-monitors are less observant and rely more on internal actions rather then
Courtney Borovskis
Ramapo College of New Jersey
Change is inevitable and we as a society can do nothing to alter this from happening. From what is popular among the different generations to the different hairstyles and clothing options. We are always evolving as a society, except for one aspect in our lives. No matter what generation we were born into and how old we as a society are expected to follow the social norm ultimately finding his or her spouse and end in a committed relationship. Relationships are a huge topic today in researching socially how society acts. Constantly asking how do we find this one special person? There have been numerous experiments and researchers who have taken the time to examine and analyze this aspect in our lives. Specifically within this research paper I will be focusing on self-monitoring in relation to dating. The underlying similarity throughout each experiment and all the findings is the psychological construct of self-monitoring. A theory that deals with expressive controls within an individual is what self-monitoring is defined as. People are overly concerned with how they are perceived buy a possible significant other to make them seem more desirable ending in a positive relationship. Within these self-monitoring people there are two separate categories defining the different personalities. There are both high self-monitors and low self-monitors. High self-monitors tend to closely monitor themselves. Those who fall into this category are more inclined to impress others and work for positive feedback. In comparison, those who are defined as low self-monitors do not exert the same level of expressive controls. Those in this category tend to stay true to themselves and when in a social situations work off of their own beliefs, attitudes, and dispositions despite the social circumstance. In addition, low self-monitors are less observant and rely more on internal actions rather then
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