We all have our own definition of what discipline is and its appropriate use. “The word Discipline is derived from the word Disciple, which means the follower of a teacher”(Meyer). A teacher educates through examples and guidance rather than punishment. Modeling appropriate behaviors and enlightening children on natural consequences are lessons teachers will instill on their students. “We say we want to teach our children proper behavior and help them develop self-discipline. Yet instead, we have adopted strategies that are the direct opposite of teaching and instead are just clever guises of manipulation and control.” (Tsabary) Many people believe that the only way to get the response or action they expect from children is through physical discipline and threats. People who believe this to be the only answer are uneducated and inexperienced with disciplining children.…
* I personally I think that using consequences and following the ABCs will , help shape your childrens behavior. One reason is that if you start early and the child grows up remember what you taught him/her they are most likely to become great leaders in the future.…
In completing this chart, I have noticed that the lack of discipline, has been a major down fall. It is clear that the values that we would like our children to grow up with have changed drastically over the years. It seems as though discipline has become a past time and medication has become the new behavior modification technique. In this drastic change, the children’s future is bound to suffer. What kind of future can come from someone who has not been responsible for their choices a day in their life? There are no benefits for a child who grows up having everything handed to them while excuses for their bad behavior are being made every time they get in trouble.…
Picture this scenario, you and your three year old daughter are walking through Wal-Mart. She spots a toy that she really wants. Your daughter asks if you’ll buy if for her. Now, you’re on a budget. You have only enough money to purchase the items you absolutely need. You tell her no. This is when all hell breaks loose. She starts kicking and screaming. Your daughter rolls on the floor crying and shouting that she wants it. What do you do? In today’s society the only socially acceptable response you may have, especially in public, is to pull her aside, and give her a stern talk. Discuss with her why she can’t have the toy. Explain in terms she can understand, why it is wrong to throw a temper tantrum. Now, when I was little, if I threw a tantrum in the store my mother would pull me aside, and whoop me. She would tell me that she said no, and that’s final. How has our society evolved to the point where properly disciplining your child is wrong?…
In “Letting go”, Sam Schulman states that parents use too much control over their children by not letting them grow as the responsible adults they crave to be, by monitoring their every move. I do agree with the author that we overprotect our children more than ever before, certainly because we cannot look at our new generations and compare them to the care-free children in a care-free world, as it was after the World War II. Unconditional love is what makes parents worry so much. By accepting to be understanding friends instead of parents, and by using candor over rigidity, we are failing our children. Also, we all promised not to be as our parents, the guidance for our children should be stricter. Discipline in the USA is a constant fear. Child protective services are called if a child complains of his parents. Early in school, children are taught to dial 9-1-1 if parents to discipline them. Of course, I do not mean to correct with abuse but to do so to teach them right from wrong. Furthermore, we need to look at…
”Don’t Spare the rod and spoil the child.” We have all heard that before, as a child I heard it a lot. I was not the most well behaved child, so I got into plenty of trouble. My mom hated my temper tantrums. When I was little, she disciplined me, and now I am a well behaved young adult who knows right from wrong. Discipline is a way of teaching a child how to do what is right while growing up. There are multiple ways to discipline a child and make him/her behave. I feel that it is very important to begin to disciplining children when they are young so they know what is expected of them.it gives them a better sense of right and wrong while growing up once a child has reached his/her teenage years it is too late to begin the discipline process. If parents begin early, I believe that the most effective ways of disciplining children are timeout, taking away privileges, talking to the child, and, as a last resort, and spanking.…
Children cannot possibly benefit from “discipline” in the form of punishment. Simply put, punishment is disrespectful treatment of a child that will result short-term cooperation but further behavior problems long-term. No child should have to endure such negative modification methods intended to humiliate them with a goal of teaching appropriate behavior. Sadly, however, some adults think they are doing what is best for the child. But what can a child possibly learn from hearing a parent say, “If you hit your brother one more time, I'm gonna spank you!” The child interprets that message as “if I hit him, then you're going to hit me.” There is no valuable lesson…
Strong rules and penalties are set, but children are also taught that it is okay to make mistakes. Often, the child will be warned and forgiven if they don’t reach a certain level of expectation. However, while forgiveness can be offered, the main part of authoritative parenting is setting the rules and then sticking to them. Too often, parents give their children rules, and then fail to follow through; this teaches your child zero except that you don’t mean what you say. The entire goal of authoritative parenting is to teach. Teaching children to be mature, teaching them that they are responsible for their own actions and the rewards or penalties that come from them. Also teaching independence, understanding, and the fact they if they need something, they are always able to turn to their parents and will be acknowledged with friendliness and…
Why has society frowned upon spanking your child? The psychologists say you should reason with your child, but how are you supposed to reason with a child? They are too young and not quite developed enough yet to see and understand reason. Many of us were spanked as children and turned out just fine. Is not spanking your child the reason why children and teens are more rude, disrespectful and no longer courteous to others than ever before?…
Some also try rewarding their kids for good behavior. “When a child is verbally corrected, apart from the use of any other form of punishment, the result is almost always a disaster. The child quickly learns that you are all talk and no action. A child then learns that the tongue lashing is that, just a voice. Therefore they learn how to tune you out.” (usingspakingdiscipline.com). Rewarding children for good behavior teaches them that they should only be good to get something out of it. They need to learn that they can do good deeds for the purpose of being a good person, not to get a reward. Children may also learn to behave badly to get a reward. Grounding your kids usually never work. Most parents ground their kids and forget that they have an electronic world inside their bedrooms. Sure they’d love to sit in their room all week and play their video games and play on the computer. Grounding will not work unless parents take away all…
Today violence is everywhere. It i s always seen on our television programs, we hear about it on the radio and teens are participating in it on a regular basis via video games. Many parents today are trying to blame the change in our media system.…
When children misbehave, the parent’s disciplinary actions are often seen as a form of child abuse by other. There are different ways to discipline a child that is not considered child abuse. Most parents want their child to grow up happy, healthy, and have self confidence. Parents often think that disciplining their child will cause them to lack any of these feelings, this is not true. Children need discipline, parent’s that don’t discipline their child, often times the child’s behavior will reflect on the manner of the discipline (e.g. Children that misbehave, defiant, and disrespect others).…
When I say the outcome depends approach a person takes, I am stating that there are different types of discipline. A parent disciplining there child doesn't necessarily mean to beat them with an object, such as belts, rulers, or hangers, etc.. Discipline is also putting a child in 'time out', taking away there electronics, the tv, or anything that has a lot of value to them. As long as the discipline approach doesn't cause physical or mental damage to the child, the person is doing the right thing.…
Spankings, name-calling, and yelling mothers and fathers have corrected their children this way for years. For centuries, children were considered the property of the parents. Parents were able to discipline their children in any way they saw fit. As time has progressed, the courts have taken an interest in how children are disciplined. The courts think and people who spank their children are abusing them, children should be in the care of their biological parents, and the punishment for child abuse is adequate. Society has not done enough to protect vulnerable children.…
Children are often affected by their home life, which doesn’t give the right for them to take their anger out on other people. Sometimes it’s because they learn their ways from their parents, and how their parents act at home. These children obviously need psychological help and they aren’t getting it, and I think we need to better supply them that, so we don’t have as many children committing violent crimes at such a young age or even at all. The murder rate has gone up so much, and most of those murders are committed by young adults or children under the age of 18.…