John Irving's The Water-Method Man: Sex without Love
Sex Without Love
When two people love each other, it is natural for them to express their feelings to each other. Sex is considered to be the ultimate expression of the love two people have for each other. However, love is not always the reason for sex. Sometimes sex happens without love. Sex without love has various influences on people in their lives. Rape causes long lasting scars on peoples lives, sex is often used as a form of healing, and prostitution is a way of life for some people.
Rape causes long lasting scars on peoples lives. Rape is forcing another person to submit to sexual intercourse. The person committing the rape receives a sense of power over the person he is raping. When Chipper Dove and friends rape Franny they do not do it only for sexual satisfaction. Franny is in love with Chipper Dove and she is willing to have sex with him, but he feels the need to rape her anyway. She was "prepared for him, [she'd] even imagined it - with him. [She] always knew it would be him - the first time - somehow ... [She] even told him that they didn't have to force [her], that [she'd] let him," (The Hotel New Hampshire, Page 99). She tells herself that "when someone touches you and you don't want to be touched, that's not being touched ... they don't really get the you in you," (The Hotel New Hampshire, Page 101). However Suzie, who is an expert on rape counselling, says that this is not possible. Chipper Dove continues to have this hold on Franny for a very long time afterwards. She becomes a lesbian while in Vienna. It is not until after they return to New York that Chipper Dove enters their lives again. To get him back, they put on a show and make him think that he is about to get raped by "a bear in heat,"(The Hotel New Hampshire, Page 357). Seeing him scared in this way shows Franny that he does not have the power and control that she thought he had. This allows her to get on with her life. This shows once again the effect rape has. Chipper Dove sees how
When two people love each other, it is natural for them to express their feelings to each other. Sex is considered to be the ultimate expression of the love two people have for each other. However, love is not always the reason for sex. Sometimes sex happens without love. Sex without love has various influences on people in their lives. Rape causes long lasting scars on peoples lives, sex is often used as a form of healing, and prostitution is a way of life for some people.
Rape causes long lasting scars on peoples lives. Rape is forcing another person to submit to sexual intercourse. The person committing the rape receives a sense of power over the person he is raping. When Chipper Dove and friends rape Franny they do not do it only for sexual satisfaction. Franny is in love with Chipper Dove and she is willing to have sex with him, but he feels the need to rape her anyway. She was "prepared for him, [she'd] even imagined it - with him. [She] always knew it would be him - the first time - somehow ... [She] even told him that they didn't have to force [her], that [she'd] let him," (The Hotel New Hampshire, Page 99). She tells herself that "when someone touches you and you don't want to be touched, that's not being touched ... they don't really get the you in you," (The Hotel New Hampshire, Page 101). However Suzie, who is an expert on rape counselling, says that this is not possible. Chipper Dove continues to have this hold on Franny for a very long time afterwards. She becomes a lesbian while in Vienna. It is not until after they return to New York that Chipper Dove enters their lives again. To get him back, they put on a show and make him think that he is about to get raped by "a bear in heat,"(The Hotel New Hampshire, Page 357). Seeing him scared in this way shows Franny that he does not have the power and control that she thought he had. This allows her to get on with her life. This shows once again the effect rape has. Chipper Dove sees how