A parent’s love for a child is quite like no other. Because of this, parents often push their children toward the “best” opportunities, and expect the child to meet their desires. However, if the path the son or daughter might have chosen did not fall into the set category of their parents, there often becomes tension and disapproval. At times, the high expectations parents hold for their children are set in stone, and parents cease to acknowledge what the reality actually is. Kitty’s reality is that she is twenty six, in love with a woman, and lacks a “successful” job. Kitty’s mother takes no notice of what is real, and continues with her questions about how Kitty’s life should be. “You’re twenty six and not getting younger/ it’s about time you got a decent job…what are you doing with your life?/ why don’t you study computer programming? (19-22). Not only is Kitty’s mom disapproving of her love for another woman, but also mocks Kitty’s career choice. Not once does the question of what makes Kitty happy come up, it is only what the mother thinks is best for Kitty. The expectations of Kitty’s mother have only created a larger gap in their relationship, and developed neglect and hopelessness among Kitty. Instead of talking through these important matters, Kitty’s mom’s criticism of Kitty’s life overpowers any chance for approval, leaving her feeling…
Her father was the nurturing parent. He played games with both children, spent time discussing books, nature, and helping with school projects. Annie’s mother was very conscious of social status and outward appearances presented in the community. Her mother was less than nurturing and insisted on perfection in the home’s appearance as well as both children’s academics, extracurricular activities, and behavior in general. When failure or shortcoming occurred, severe punishment was executed by Annie’s mother, in the form of corporal punishments and restrictions. Her mother was very authoritarian. Annie began searching for love by marrying quite young to escape her mother’s dominance. Her brother escaped through his music and even tried to run away several times.…
Scott Westerfeld’s book, Uglies takes place in a dystopian version of earth with advanced technology. Tally, the main character, is an average ‘Ugly’, a name for children/teenagers under the age of 16. Once a teenager turns 16, they go through a procedure that makes them impossibly pretty, which is the new ‘average’ look. Tally wants to be a pretty, but her friend Shay does not, due to many reasons. Shay unknowingly ruins Tally’s chance to turn pretty after escaping the city, managing to avoid the procedure. Tally’s procedure gets delayed and she is blackmailed into hunting Shay down to the place she escaped to and eventually betray her. One lesson taught through that is that when you underestimate yourself or judge yourself due to other people, your judgement can be affected by that and you can do something you could regret.…
As the second act progresses, the audience realizes that Daisy is in fact a boy. At age 17 he realizes that he in fact is not a girl and stops wearing dresses. It is clear that he was deeply affected by the negligence of his parents. The audience gets to listen in on Daisy’s therapy sessions and see him psychologically develop over time. Jordan Kubat’s portrayal of daisy’s psyche was perfect. He was able to interpret what a child who experienced what daisy experience would be like.…
‘Goodbye,’ I said, and there was a tiny spring of sadness pushing up from my heart.” Lily is aware that all of her memories are in that house and her town, but she takes the risk of never returning again to help the people she loves. This is a true act of heroism taking risks for the people who mean the most to you. In The Secret Life of Bees women are made to think that they are inferior to men and that men hold all the power. Lily’s father T-Ray treated women very unequally and often said that women had less opportunities and were not able to do all the things that men can do. Growing up her whole life with only T-Ray and no mother-figure has left Lily to believe that women really are inferior and not as capable as men. After meeting the daughters of Mary Lily started to no longer underestimate the power of women as she saw the example of Mary, who was a women that was able to do remarkable things. She also learns the power of women by meeting the boatwright sisters who are all remarkably strong. All the women in The Secret Life of Bees are inner heros in their own way and they all show the true…
T. Ray is what Lily calls her father “because ‘Daddy’ never fit him” (2). Still being upset about his wife’s death, he abhors his daughter and avoids her by having her work alone from sunrise to sunset in the peach orchard. He rejects her when she asks him to buy her rollers to fix her hair and when she asks to go to any social events. He responds to her questions about her mother with anger and violence , resulting him to one time “[throw a jar of blackberry jelly] against the kitchen cabinet” (13). T. Ray’s “only kindness was for Snout… who slept in his bed and got her stomach scratched anytime she rolled onto her wiry back” (3). Having treated Snout with much greater kindness than his own daughter makes Lily feel unloved and…
And she throws them all away. One of Lily's biggest issues is pride, which we can blame for these failed marriage opportunities. She's too proud to talk to Rosedale, to let Bertha think that Selden came to Bellomont to visit her, to explain her side of the story regarding the Monte Carlo affair, or to marry a man like Selden who isn't dripping hundred dollar bills out of his pores. She can't even allow herself to be true friends with a caring woman like Gerty because she's too "dingy." Time and time again, Lily recoils from any sign of poverty (or anything that isn't elaborate or doesn't represent extreme wealth) as though it were physically contaminating.…
Being an striking theme in Secret Life of Bees, absence is shown through the novel in many different fashions. It is important to note that her mother's leaves her in a horrific manner, but her father leaves her in a more slow and painful way. Lily will never be completely alright after her terrible childhood, the absence of her mom will always carry a heavy burden on her back. Also, her father’s emotional cold heartedness and disappearance will forever leave her longing for parental love. Overall, her parents left Lily in a hole that she has amazingly dig herself out of with the help of many supporting actors. Abandoned by everyone that loved her at a young age Lily was certainly headed down the road of failure until she met the wonderful calendar sisters, and the Tiburon…
I chose to analyze this quotation because it reveals how Lily regrets knowing about her mother even after her only goal was to learn more about her mother. Lily lived her life believing her mother always cared for her and would never leave her. However, when she realized that T. Ray was right when he said Deborah left Lily, this crushes her, which is why she regrets ever knowing the hurtful truth.…
Regarding to indirect characterization, Lily was portrayed as a girl who was able to stand up to her abusive father because she is maturing. Kidd was perfectly able to provide this technique through the heated conversation between Lily and her father, T. Ray. While Lily experiences self-revelation, shouting, “You don’t scare me” (38). Once she uttered these words, she describes the feeling as “a brazen feeling has…
In the story, A & P the theme highlights adolescence in which the author resonates young woman and men who are coming of age. First, the innocence of three carefree girls unashamed of wearing their bathing suits in a non-beach setting attracts the attention of Sammy, a nineteen year old male who works at the A & P grocery store. Second, the author describes the girls through Sammy as the protagonist who admires their bodies and using vivid imagery to describe their physical appearance of these young girls from a male’s point of view. Sammy describes each of the girls in detail, admiring their bodies and finds one of the three girls most attractive calling her Queenie. To contrast the beauty of these girls, Sammy describes the older women…
The relationship that Lily and Zachery have because in Southern America in the 1960s African-American and Caucasain people were nor friends neither werethey romantically involved. Their relationship began as a friendship, even though Lily had always thought that Zachery was attractive, which surprised her because she and her peers had always thought that African-Americans were unattractive. She says,”If he was shocked over me being white, I was shocked over him being handsome. At my school they made fun of coloured people's lips and noses. I had laughed myself hoping to fit in."(Kidd 116). Later on their relationship blossoms into a relationship with a little bit more romance. Lily sees past Zachery's colour and sees him as regular boy, with hopes and dreams; she begins to like him more and more, but she has difficulty coping with the fact that she and Zachery can never be in a relationship due to the difference of the colour of their skin: "It seemed like I was now thinking of Zach forty minutes out of every hour, Zach who was an impossibility" (133). Even though Lily is attracted to Zachery and vice versa, an interracial relationship is frowned upoon and Zachery knows how dangerous it can be, so they both agree to just be friends. He even gives Lily a notebook to encourage her to write, and Lily supports hm in his dream of becomng a lawyer. Zachery positively influences Lily when it is about reaching for her dreams. lily likes zachs looks and personality this makes her very special. she sees past the color of his skin and sees just a regular boy who has dreams like her . i think their view on life drew them together because they both want to see a future with no racism and neither of them agree with what is going on right now in their time.…
Lily Dale always held an eerie fascination for me. Growing up my best friend Kim and I would listen to stories from her mom about Lily Dale. She would tell us how every summer the “gypsies” as she called them, would come and settle in this small community to tell peoples futures. Lily Dale was only about a forty five minute drive from my hometown in Pennsylvania. I remember the first time Kim’s mom told us we were going on an adventure. Her and my mom were going to take us up to Lily Dale, we would pack a lunch to eat by the lake on the grounds and explore the town. Kim and I had all these images and expectation in our mind mostly from the stories we heard. I remember leaving early in the morning and driving the scenic route along the southern shore of Lake Erie. There were rolling…
Lily Bart, so far, has become an increasingly relatable character for females in the 21st century. While the book is set in the early 1900’s the idea that being single and on her own late in her age is a problem that I feel many females can relate to these days. I found it surprising that the book would be about a woman around 29 years old and still unmarried at the time, but it also shows that maybe it wasn’t as unheard of as our grandmothers make it out to be. Lily is clearly distressed by the idea of being unmarried and is ultimately willing to marry anyone who can financially support her, just like the other girls her age, however, I get the sense from her that she is not going to be happy with solely someone who is only going to support her. Lawrence Selden is clearly a dear friend of hers that she enjoys being around however she overlooks the fact that maybe they could grow to love each other due to the fact that he is not financially able enough to support the life style that she wants. The ironic part of the story is that she too is not even financially stable enough to support herself, however she seems too scared to let go of her inner wants and desires and allow herself to be happy with someone who may care about her more than someone that can give her a lavish lifestyle.…
Lily Owens changes dramatically, when she starts spiritually growing. This is when Lily finally accepts that sometimes you don’t need a physical or biological mother, and that the Mother of Chains would always be there in her heart. Lily realizes this one night in the Boatwright’s house when she went to visit the colored Virgin May statue, and placed her hand on the red heart on the statue chest and side “’you are my mother…You are the mother of thousands”’ (269).That quotation from Lily shows her acceptance of life and that she is growing spiritually. The reason why it shows spiritual growth is because, before mother Mary she always ignored religion and anything spiritual. Another way Lily shows that she is changing spiritually is when her and Rosaleen and the two Boatwright sisters, August and June go looking for May because, she went missing after going to the Wailing Wall to go and grief. Well looking Lily begins to say “Hail Mary, full of grace, Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of death. Amen”’ (191). This quotation appositely show Lily’s spiritual growth and her maturity growth because, she is finally looking for a spiritual dependents which is praying to Mother Mary who she looks up to. Furthermore Lily has grown spiritually due to those reasons stated before.…