Living Apart Together

A “Living Apart Together” ‘Living Apart Together’, also known as the term L.A.T., is a new trend that has spread across the world. It has been perceived differently, and some might claim it is a result of a stresses everyday life, where time alone and selfishness is missing. LAT could give you a chance of being in a well function relationship, and still be away from your partner. The more negative perception of it is that people think it shows a lack of commitment, and it is a way to run from the problems. I think it is an unrivalled opportunity to be committed to a relationship, but also to yourself.
Couples there are living after the LAT term, can pursue both the intimacy of being a couple together, and at the same time conserve autonomy. “LAT setup can be seen across a wide range of ages and socioeconomic backgrounds, and is becoming increasingly understood and socially accepted.” The arguments listed below, are a few of the positive and negative in the debate of Living Apart Together. In the second text appear quite different views on the ‘L.A.T.’ A clinical social worker, Jeanette Lofas, advocates living apart. “(…) because blended families are so vulnerable to internecine resentments and power struggles.” Another expressive person who says his opinion is professor Popnoe. He acknowledges the living apart together makes sense for some people. He mentions the elderly or divorced people, but for others he is afraid that an L.A.T relationship might weaken their ability to create a long-term relationship. He also claim that it’s the younger couples who turn to ‘living apart together’ after having a baby too early or not being able to commit. He says that younger couples often turn to L.A.T, after a failed marriage, specifically if there are children involved. The last point I would elucidate, is Ms. Hess’s. She is a 61 years old woman from Berkeley, who claims that many people try very hard to fit into a model of relationship, that maybe never work out. She says that it could save a lot of pain and breakups, if people knew about Living Alone Together. She says: “Many people are trying to fit themselves into a very narrow model for long-term relationships that does not work for their personalities (..) if more people saw living apart as an option it might save them a lot of pain and breakups.”
The third text is called: “Just What Modern Romance Needs: Living Apart Together” and it’s written by Gary Picariello. His opinion has already been clarified in the headline. According to him, L.A.T is just for couples that don’t want to commit. Still he argue for- and against ‘Living Apart Together’ First in the text, he is positive about the term. He believes that you value and appreciate the other person more when you finally meet. He claims: “I guess it makes some sense when you think about it: if familiarity breeds contempt, then having separate places to retreat to means that you’re more likely to appreciate each other when you do get together” Despite his positive angle of the trend, he still sums up his article, with his own opinion. An opinion that shows his distinct is against this trend. Furthermore he creates his own new trend called: “Living Together Forever - LTF”. At this point, he really gets to state his final point: That the only kind of relationship that works is the one where you live together forever. This text is also characterized by the way Mr. Picariello expresses himself in, as if he was talking directly to another person. It’s affecting the article on a good way, I think. It’s very naturel and you feel like you attend the conversation. For example he wrote: “So what’s the deal with ‘Living Apart Together’?” He also uses a lot of facts, for example about the Italian people.
I text one, Mrs. Bennett says, that ‘it has become less odd to be living apart together because we live in a century where work has become a higher priority which leads to such things as stress.’ Therefore it could be a good idea for some couples to live separated. I found it individually from one person to another, to decide rather you would live after this new trend, or live together. There could be a lot of advantages in making the relationship work by living apart. You fell a sort of freedom in the relationship that you can’t find in a ‘Living together’ relationship. When this is said, I have to say that it (according to me) is a little bit different, when it comes to having kids. Then I think the trend is dealing with what the parents want, and that is a selfish and an immature way to live. – When you are raising your children as parents there are living separately, it may give the child a worse upbringing environment. When it comes to an end, a child should grow up with both parents.

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[ 1 ]. http://www.apartmenttherapy.com/autonomous-and-committed-living-apart-together-170180
[ 2 ]. ”Home Alone Together” – Jill Brooke. p. 4, l. 25-26
[ 3 ]. ”Home Alone Together” – Jill Brooke. P. 6, l. 65-67.
[ 4 ]. ”Just What A Modern Romance Needs: Living Apart Together” – Gary Picariello. P. 7, l. 27-29.
[ 5 ]. ”Just What A Modern Romance Needs: Living Apart Together” – Gary Picariello. P. 7, l. 7