Love vs. Sex

Many people pair love along side of sex, thinking the two go hand in hand, when in reality, they don’t. Sex is an action out of lust, the fact that people can have casual hook ups, with no attachments illustrates this. Love is a deep emotion between two people, this leads to commitment, usually marriage, and sex, but a different kind, one that is purely an act of love. By combining the two in a literary work, it detracts from the aesthetic quality of it, undermining the message behind the poem, making it no longer about love, but lust. The poem “To His Coy Mistress” is a perfect example of how placing love and sex together in a poem takes away from the work, leaving the reader less impacted by the poem as a whole. Love is an amazing emotion, something that no one can quite understand, and that never changes. Love has always been a large part of the human culture, something that will always be relevant, even in years to come. The need to be someone’s “one and only”, what they live for from day to day, to have someone care about you that much is priceless. It is the need to be desired, and taken care of, that drives people to find love. You find someone with common interests, and you talk, you go out on a few dates, and then it happens-- you begin to fall for that person, completely in love. Love leads to commitment, and then marriage, something that is so sacred, you promise to “love and cherish” that one person “’til death do you part”, never leaving their side, hurting when they hurt, joyous when they are joyous. An example of this from “To His Coy Mistress” is found in the beginning of the poem, “for, Lady you deserve this state, nor would I love at lower rate”, this is stated after the narrator tells a young lady about how beautiful, and wonderful she is, trying to sweep her away with loving words, attempting to make her fall in love with him. Once you have this sort of love, you can link sex with it, but only then. Sex is an act of love that has been