Male and Female Psychology

Note: These notes are based on varies internet searches and books. This does not by any means cover every aspect of the male psychology, not does it refer to every single male out there. Each gender has a variety to adopt and express themselves, but the general idea remains. This is what was meant to be portrayed in these notes.

General:

* “Rules of Masculinity”
Strength
Emotional toughness, courage, self-reliance, rationality
Honor
Duty, loyalty, responsibility, integrity, compassion
Action
Competitiveness, ambition, dominance, risk-taking

Men in Relationships:

“Show enough affection, but not too much”
Men feel like there should be a reasonable amount of affection in terms of wording and body movement. Women should show that they care, but not too much to where it suffocates them. To men relationships should be free and natural, too much of anything can be a bad thing. Taking away the freedom, plays a huge part on the commitment issues and the overall survival of the male in a relationship.
“Give him hope, but don’t fall into his arms”
Men find it exciting in chasing a woman, which is why women that are too accessible are never a good start. This also has to do with the though process that women that are too accessible the first time, are just as easy to get for other men. In the men’s book is a turn off. Men are considered to be predators, then hunt. Hunting, is what keeps them interested. Although, if the hunt goes on for too long they will give up. Men cannot handle refusal, just as bad, if not worse, then how females handle it. The chase has to be flirty, yet deniable at the same time. Give him hope, but don’t fall into his arms. This plays along later in the relationship as well. You have to keep the relationship exciting. Give him something to chase once in a while. When men know they completely have you, and that’s it, they loose interest in the hunting game. A woman that keeps busy, and doesn’t always reply makes him wonder in a good way, as long as all is done in limit.
“Beauty catches attention, but it’s the mind that keeps a relationship”
It has many times been proven and researched that men are visual creatures. Their first instinct is their sight when it comes to women. They notice women for their beauty, and that may be enough for a few dates. Most men though look for a woman that has more then just beauty to her, but a brain. A woman with a good head on her shoulders can hold a conversation, and keep him interested in not just a sexual way. This also plays part in relationships. Once things tend to get serious, a man looks for someone he would happy to come home to and talk about things. The woman’s job is to keep that conversation going, and interesting. Beauty eventually fades, maybe not even with old age, but just with the time spent together. The intelligence remains. Also keep in mind, men like women who like themselves, as long as the women is not in love with herself.
“Leave him in charge, but show your character once in a while”
Men do like to be in charge, and they feel masculine in doing so. In the world we live in today, men feel that masculinity being diminished. Women are able to work, have careers, make decisions, and etc. In their eyes, men feel like they need to still show that they are the male figures. They do so in various ways. In starting out relationships letting the male pay, is the norm in most cultures. This has to do with the male being considered the head in the family in a more serious relationships. Men want to be able to protect and provide for their family. This, in the mind, is a way of showing that they are who they are. That all is true, but with the culture we live in today, men also look for woman that are strong and self-reliant when she needs to be. A women with her goals and mind in the right places is a huge turn on for men.

Men and Cheating:

“Why do men cheat with uglier women”
This play part in being superior in the male character. Males who are in a relationship with a beautiful woman sometimes may feel in superior and craves attention. They feel that way because women that are beautiful are given attention wherever they go. This constantly keeps the men on their toes. Studies also show that women that are more beautiful tend to be more calm, in other words not as affectionate. This attention that he seeks can be given to him by an uglier woman, and in most cases uglier women are more accessible.

Note: These notes are based on varies internet searches and books. This does not by any means cover every aspect of the male psychology, not does it refer to every single male out there. Each gender has a variety to adopt and express themselves, but the general idea remains. This is what was meant to be portrayed in these notes.

General:

Women in Relationships:

“Be the knight in shining armor”
Women love a man, who acts like a man. That masculine attitude and the sense of security behind a male is something that females are very attracted to. Females can be strong in a sense, but they need, and want, by nature a male to be there to protect them. Security can be sensed by a female when she is starting to get to know the partner. This vibe has to be not too needy, but also not too isolated. Every women wants to feel wanted, and she looks for the male that can keep his masculinity, but also show that he wants her. This balance attracts her, and keeps her around. This masculinity can also be shows in authority. Women love men who can take the lead, and who aren’t afraid to tell them what to do. This has to be done in balance, since letting a women take charge once in a while keeps it interesting for her and appreciated since she knows what your doing.
“Planning ahead right from the start”
Women always plan ahead, especially the older they get. It is the biological make up of a woman to want to settle down. They are more focused on where the relationship is headed, and they will process and think every detail when making this decision. Women are aware their biological clock is ticking, so they are always on the hunt for the male that would be the perfect match for them and that would provide them with children. This also explains why women get so attached so fast, and they want to know they are wanted as well. Expressing yourself, but not too much, is always important to keep her emotionally settled.
“A women’s mind is like a never ending tape recorder”
Women over think things, this has been proven in many studies. A women’s brain jumps around to different subjects. She remembers and keeps things in mind for a long time. This plays part in disagreements or even conversations. She will keep it in mind for weeks, and even think about what was said or what was agreed on. This is a way for her to make sure the right decision was made or that she hasn’t messed up in any way. In more serious relationships, a woman feels when her partner starts to slip away. When two people get too comfortable with each other, sometimes one or the other starts to pull away. In those cases, women will remember every detail needed and replay them in their head to see where and why their partner started to slip.
“Don’t let chivalry slip away with the modern culture”
As much as woman have the opportunity to have their own careers, houses, jobs, and etc., they still love chivalry. In other cultures, and in older times, the male was the one who would financially support the woman. This has changed with the way the culture has been progressing, especially in America. In the mind of a woman she knows that it is true, but she still wishes for the chivalry that was in tact in older cultures. A woman wants to see a man who can support her later in life.
“Just the thought of appreciation brings a smile to their face”
No matter what kind of a woman she is, she loves surprises and a little romance. Like said before, women love a masculine male, but she also loves a man who can keep that masculinity while being romantic and sweet when he needs to be. This act keeps a woman feel appreciated and wanted. Women take this act of romance in and conclude that their partner has spent time and put thought into such project for them. Just the thought of that bring a smile to their face.
“Invite her, she will get the hint”
Always invite your significant other wherever you go. Women hate when they don’t get invited. Whether it’s football night with your friends or a night in the city with them, a woman will not stand it. The invitation is what counts, but she will get the hint if you don’t want her to come. This plays part in being wanted and appreciated. One thing that really gets a woman is when she is intentionally and truly invited to come out with his friends, because she feels that he is proud of her, and isn’t afraid to show her off to his friends.

Women and Cheating:

“Not enough love, can lead to finding love somewhere else”
A huge reason why women cheat is when they are not shown enough affection and care. Women who don’t feel like they significant other cares about them, can assume that they are cheating on them, which forces them to think about doing the same. It can be that women find that appreciation and care in some other male, or they do it to get back at their significant other who is not showing enough affection. Never put a woman down or say negative things about her appearance. Women already judge themselves and constantly look for things that are wrong with them, if a male adds to that, a woman seeks ways to regain her confidence. In most cases, she may find it in someone…else.
“Similar physical features can have its’ downfall”
Research shows that women who are married to men that are physically similar (aka: eyes color, hair color) are more likely to cheat. This is because during her ovulation period a woman feels a need to mate with a physically different partner in order to keep diversity of a child born as a result.
“Keeping busy can save your relationship”
In order from a woman to stay interested it is good to spend some time apart. A relationships always goes smoothly when you have time to miss each other. In more serious relationships being constantly together forces the woman to get bored, and want change. This change she may find in someone else. This is why when couples live together it is unavoidable to constantly be with each other, in those cases it is important for both of parties to stay busy. This can be done by working, hobbies, and other recreational activities. That will not only give the couple time to miss each other, but give them things to talk about and discuss.
“When flirting starts to be secretive, that’s when you should worry”
As a male, one thing to keep in mind is that a woman is a very complex creature. She constantly needs to be reminded that she is beautiful and she is constantly seeking attention. It has been proven that women who are prettier are more likely to suffer from self-depression and under appreciation. These women feel that they are constantly judged and start to judge themselves because of the pressure. More beautiful women who get this attention can sometimes play along with it which is flirting, but the males job is to know the difference. Sometimes flirting can be very mild and this keeps the women knowing that she is still appreciated and not just by her significant other. The signs of cheating in this case, is when flirting starts to be secretive. In this case of women conscious plays in, because she knows she is doing something wrong, and those are the starting signs of cheating.

Women and Sex:

“Leave the judging behind if your want to keep her pleased”
A women always aims to please in bed. Although she wants to feel good as well, but she will not feel great if she feels her partner doesn’t. This is because when she sees her partner being excited, her self confidence boosts and it loosens her up and makes her feel good about herself. This also lets her do things she wants without feeling like she is being judged. A woman’s biggest fear is that she is being judged in bed, especially when it comes to beautiful females. Beautiful women feel that they are looked at and therefore judged every where they go. The last place they want that to happen is in bed with that special someone.
“Boredom can happen behind closed doors”
Women can get bored just as easily as men can. Sex is always exciting the first few couple of times just because it’s something new, but after a while it gets boring, and not just for the male. Females feel the boredom as well. This is why it is important for the male and the female to keep it exciting. Try different positions, places, and techniques. Studies has proven that after an adrenaline rush, sex is always passionate and exciting. Doing something crazy together non-sexually, can also be a step up in the bedroom.
“Be a man, not another woman with a mouth, she has plenty of those”
A woman has witnesses and even participated in her share of drama. Most women seem to be huge on talking about other women and discussing their every detail. This is very true when it comes to women they are jealous of. It is important for males not to be that way. A woman expects her man to keep her secrets and especially what happens behind closed doors to himself.

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