People live in the world where socialization has become a necessity. Without being able to reach out to others, a person cannot experience growth and development. However, dealing with other people requires self-management. Meaning, a person should know himself best because it is only in this understanding that he is able to make friends with the people surrounding him, or even influence them. In light of this assertion, this paper will assess how a person can make friends and influence other people, as he masters how to manage himself.
Managing Oneself
Peter F. Drucker's Managing Oneself has crucial lessons which guide readers as to how they manage their personal career. …show more content…
Significantly, one cannot expect to feel good about others when he does not feel good about himself. Hence, it is through understanding oneself that a person can adjust to people surrounding him. When an individual understands and acts accordingly based on a certain situation because he understands himself, he can then handle them properly, and even get them to like him. In a world full of pretenses, honest people want sincerity. As such, if a person wants to make friends with others, he must do things heartily. Carnegie (1981) emphasized that a person can actually win people with how he thinks. For example, if he is aware that he is wrong, he must admit it quickly and emphatically. Most of relationships are ruined because of pride and misunderstanding. Moreover, a person can also win other people when he tries to honestly see things from the other person's point of view. When this person understands that not everybody are alike, and if he understand how he should behave, he can emphatize with what others feel. Thus, he is not quick to judge but he extends mercy and understanding. All of these are important to value relationship and influence …show more content…
Drucker (2008) stressed out that a person should focus on his strengths rather than his weaknesses. In addition, he emphasized that a person should understand how he learns best and understands how he works best. These takeaways serve as a foundation for a person to win friends and influence other people. As mentioned by Carnegie (1981), a person can only win friends when he does not immediately criticize, condemn or complain. On the other hand, a person can only influence other people when he is able to win them with the way he thinks. Considerably, this aspect requires managing oneself. Based on this discussion, it is evident that making friends and influencing people is not an easy task. However, when it is done with sincerity, it can be easily done. Both of these books are best recommended for people who find it hard to understand themselves. Aside from that, these books can help people who are not so good in making friends and influencing other